dannymc33 Posted November 23, 2018 Posted November 23, 2018 Just a quick background when i was younger my father was alcoholic and abandoned our home and my mum remarried. I was physically and emotionally abused by stepfather throughout my childhood. When my father did bother to show up he only wanted to spend time with my elder brother and had no time for me i felt worthless. As an adult i have always had problems with self esteem etc and i some how only get drawn to girls who have suffered child abuse its like i can just sense it. I met this girl at my previous job 2 years ago and i was instantly attracted to her. I knew straight away that she had problems. Her parents abandoned her then her adopted parents abandoned her. At the time she was living in Crewe and had just met a guy. She instantly gave her home up and moved in with him in Wrexham 6 months ago we caught up on facebook and to my suprise she was living with family 50 miles away (Liverpool) We started dating and she told me her family (cousins) were taking drugs and one of her cousins was creeping on her so i told her she can come and live with me (Nantwich). A week after living with me she told me her cousins had her dog and they were abusing it so i drove to Liverpool and picked it up for her. My neighbour put various complaints in about the dog so i told her she will have to rehome him. That night she walked to the shop with my 10 year old son and when he left to go back his mums she broke down and told me my son is suicidal and i should go and move back to Crewe where he lives. Apparently she told my son not to to tell me but i didnt believe it he is a happy child. I obviously spoke to him about it and he told me he wouldn't dream of saying it and i knew straight away he was telling the truth. Then everything fell in to place. I now started to doubt that she was also telling the truth about her family and she probably said it knowingly i would move her in and also she lied about the dog being abused so i would go and save him. I also believe she told me my son was suicidal so i would move house and therefore we wouldn't have to re home the dog. I gave her time to get her own place and a job and as soon as she did i told her it was best to get her own place. She got a flat in my town and i instantly finished with her. I started seeing her again for a while and we booked a holiday and i had started texting another girl and the new girl found out about her so i cruelly called it off with her out of guilt and gave her money back for the holiday. Although shes got problems i do love her and i am so remorseful for abandoning her when shes had that all her life. She comes across as i really nice girl and everyone loves her. But at the same time i feel relieved because of what she said about my son. I know shes just met another guy in a town called Buxton and already she's handed her notice in at work so i can guess whats coming next! Its completely messed my head up and i have decided to go and get counseling but was i right that she was secretly manipulating me or was it all in my head? (Anxiety talking) sorry for the essay!
Gaeta Posted November 23, 2018 Posted November 23, 2018 The lie about your son is unacceptable. Not the type of things you forgive and forget, this shows this lady has serious mental problems. Why would you want to add that into your life? especially in your son's life. Cut your connection, don't worry you'll get over her. You are 100% responsible of who and what you let into your life remember.
grays Posted November 25, 2018 Posted November 25, 2018 If someone lied about my kid that way, I’d probably have to rip their head off. That’s so messed up. I don’t know how you could ever trust her. I suppose the worst that lie was going to lead to was worry on your part, but it’s so crazy, who knows what next time.
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