gonzo223 Posted November 23, 2018 Posted November 23, 2018 Me and my Ex where together 18 months and we where perfect together, after 6 months we moved in together and i started with depression, I couldn't see my kids due to Ex wife, Job insecurity, i had finance issues, which made my depression worse We broke up in March this year and got back together, Then again in August we broke again but again got back together. On the last break up i said to her, "if i was any other man i would have walked away along time ago and that she will never find another man to make her happy". I've said so many horible things, the anger took over me and caused us to drift apart As a result she ended our relationship and its been no contact from her since. Ive emailed her everyday for 26 days some times 6 or 7 times a day, trying to explain what i had done, and that i have changed. She as blocked my through everything, told me there is no chance and i need to move on and forget about her. i hate myself so much for what i did but it has helped me change from who i was. Before we broke she told me how much she loved me, and that she would never get what she gets from me from any other man. She as friends and family saying not to take me back, i've no way of showing her how much i've changed.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 23, 2018 Posted November 23, 2018 Before we broke she told me how much she loved me, and that she would never get what she gets from me from any other man. Unfortunately, she no longer feels this way. You have harassed her to the point that she wants you out of her life for good. She won't be coming back, so no, you have no way to show her you've changed. She isn't interested in hearing it anyway. It's too late, in this case. You need to accept that this is over, and really learn from this, so you don't repeat the same mistakes in your next relationship.
Author gonzo223 Posted November 23, 2018 Author Posted November 23, 2018 I get that it may be over, but i've just noticed this morning that she as Unblocked me only on Whatsapp.
PegNosePete Posted November 23, 2018 Posted November 23, 2018 I get that it may be over, but i've just noticed this morning that she as Unblocked me only on Whatsapp. Stop stalking her else you will end up ARRESTED. She has made it perfectly clear that she is not interested in a relationship with you, or to have anything to do with you whatsoever. Just leave her alone for goodness sake! 1
ExpatInItaly Posted November 23, 2018 Posted November 23, 2018 I get that it may be over, but i've just noticed this morning that she as Unblocked me only on Whatsapp. May be? Dude, it already is.
elaine567 Posted November 23, 2018 Posted November 23, 2018 Dating is about finding out if you are compatible or not. You were great for 6 months and then the cracks appeared. You got depressed,you said some horrible things and you drifted apart and she eventually ended it after 2 break ups in a short period of time. That is not a love story that is a nightmare. Recognise it for what it was and move on. People tend not to forget bad experiences. She will not actually care that you have "changed", who is to say you will not "change" back anyway, she just does not want to go through any of that ever again. Love is something that needs nurtured, it is not everlasting. You cannot treat people badly and assume they will love you forever, they don't. Once love has been extinguished, it rarely ever returns.
Author gonzo223 Posted November 23, 2018 Author Posted November 23, 2018 I full of guilt and hate myself for how i have been, its changed me so much and made me see what went wrong. I never ever want to be that way again to the point i'm getting help to change myself. I need to change for me. Its hard to deal with when you love someone so so much
d0nnivain Posted November 23, 2018 Posted November 23, 2018 You haven't changed. You still make rash impulsive decisions & think life happens instantaneously. You have a lot on your plate. Address some of that 1st, like seeing your kids & making sure you have a steady job. Taking care of both of those, will ease your depression. You moved in too fast. You need to know somebody at least a whole year before moving in . . go through the holidays together, make sure you can deal with stressful times together. Yet you moved in together after only 6 months. I get you are not some teen with no life experience, still it was fast. Then you characterize the 18 months you were together as perfect. Yet I see 3 break ups & you had a lot of stressful things to deal with. Plus you admit you said horrible things to her. At this point use the 3rd stroke & you are out principle. Leave this woman be. You email anybody 7 times per day for a month & you are lucky you are not on the wrong end of a restraining order. That is over the top harassment. She doesn't think you have changed for the better. She thinks you have gotten worse & she wants no part of your intense nuttiness Calm down. Work on yourself. Learn to be alone & to be a single father. When you can start a new relationship at a sedate pace instead of expecting instant intimacy, you will be in a better place. There is no reason to hate yourself. You made mistakes driven by passion. But now it's time to stop & behave in a more rational manner
HumanMachine Posted November 23, 2018 Posted November 23, 2018 Let this be a lesson for you. NEVER chase a woman. Stop enailing her and have some self respect. Deal with the consequences and move forward with your life. 1
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