Wong1982 Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 (edited) Hi Not too sure where to start was with my partner for 6 months and was kept a secret, he told me this was cause he was still living in the marital home with his ex and that he didn’t want to upset his children (10, 19, 20). He told me he was still in marital home as they hadn’t agreed on the financial issues and I totally believed that! He told me he loved me, we went on holiday, he met all my family and friends, all was on his terms tho! Every time he came to mine he always brought alcohol, and his reason for ending it all was he said I had a drink problem - I was an alcoholic - and just so u all I know I am most definitely not an alcoholic he is the one in the pub every other night!! He also finished it via text message, he has left me broken and hurt, had little confidence before but he has wiped it out now, he is continuing his life from before me and I left am gutted. I feel like I am to blame and want answers - any advice please?? Thank you xx Edited November 22, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Garcon1986 Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 Welcome to LS! Am I understanding you right, you said your husband cheated on you with his ex girlfriend? ▪Have you felt you should cut down on your alcohol consumption? ▪Have people annoyed you by criticizing your drinking? ▪Have you felt guilty about your drinking? ▪Have you ever had a drink first thing in the morning (i.e., had an eye opener) to steady your nerves or to get rid of a hangover?
SunnyWeather Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 (edited) sorry Wong, but this person was never your 'partner'. they were still partnered up with their live-in spouse. what you're going through is a result of bad choices, whether getting involved with a married man, or with an alcoholic. heal and learn and make better choices next time. Edited November 22, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
ExpatInItaly Posted November 22, 2018 Posted November 22, 2018 I think this man has been lying to you all along. He is living with his wife and likely was having an affair with you. I would bet any money they are still very much married and that she doesn't know he refers to her as an ex. She probably was about to find out and he needed a reason to dump you quickly, so came up with the alcohol excuse. Never, ever date someone who needs to keep you a secret - for any reason.
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