judy Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 My ex cheated on me with this OW in his work while i still lived with him. And then he lied to her that we broke up long time ago, so she thought he is legitimate to date. Now they married, and blah, blah. and she is expecting now. And I still don'tlike her and can not even more, bless them. But I have to deal with them due to my son. SO it is very hard to deal with my feelings. Sometimes I feel like I have to keep my cool, but most of the time, she bothers a lot. and I have no good words/face to her. How to get over with this? Is this normal feelings in such situation?
sundrop Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 I think it is normal, but not to act on them and attack her for something that she didn't know about. (not saying you would attack her) I know when my ex husband, was husband at the time, had cheated on me and I found out and actually talked to the other woman, I had feelings of meaness (I didn't HATE her) towards her. I couldn't blame her, because she honestly didn't know my husband was married, but I didn't like her very much. Thank goodness I didn't have to deal with her later..... I don't envy your position, it's got to be tough.
lindya Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 I suppose all you can do is be civil when you do have to have contact with her and do your best to ensure that your son doesn't pick up on any tensions. Ultimately, she's together with - and pregnant to - a a man who has lied to her (and to you) about some very important issues. On that basis, I think you're probably a lot better off now than she is....even if it doesn't feel that way right now.
Recommended Posts