Longroadhome Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 i met this girl and we became the best of friends i mean something out of a movie scene. i mean just perfect. and to make a long story short we started dating but recently she broke up with me because she said she needed to focus on her mental and that the timing was off and the thing is THIS CAME OUT OF NOWHERE. literally we had spent the whole day together and everything was good then it’s like she had a anxiety attack and she started crying so after i was able to calm her down she was saying stuff like she didn’t feel comfortable about herself and asked me to take her home.. So i did. And i walked her up and after she was in she hugged me super tight for a long time. And then after the hug she walked to the door and asked me to leave and before i left she grabbed my wrist and kissed me.. the next day i hadn’t heard from her until later that day and she texted me saying she was sorry but she needed time and how i just needed to let go and let her go. Like she was just done with me. and after about of week of this going back and forth trying to get her to stay explaining that I’d have her back no matter what and she didn’t have to leave finally i had stopped fighting and told her everything. I didn’t have an issue with her taking time for herself i just didn’t want to lose her. and after she said it meant a lot to her and that she was glad that i understood her. then 1 hour later she blocked me on everything and didn’t say anything.. i haven’t heard from her in a week going on 2 now and I’m worried that she will forget about me. that she’s moved on and i really miss her. i don’t know what to do. I told her I’d wait for her no matter what but my mind is racing.
Garcon1986 Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 The lesson learned here is - trust what women do, not what they say. While it is true that this lady may have had some mental health issues, she was clearly turned off by your neediness and pushiness. Whenever a woman tells you she needs her space, and blocks you, that's a rejection, done in the most kind way she knows how. You don't want to get rejected in the way I got rejected - when a woman flat out told me she has no feelings for me at all. That's pretty harsh, and was from a woman who thought I was missing all her hints, so she had no choice but to be harsh. The best thing to do for your own health is to leave this woman alone. When we date, we sign on the bottom line that, at any time, our favorite partner can slam our heart against the wall and kill it whenever she wants to, without any responsibility or remorse. That's just sadly the risk of dating, as there is risk in everything in life. So - move on, do happy things, and try again. Winners in dating are able to pick up and keep on going just a few times more often than losers. Don't try to keep contacting her, it will be a waste of your time. 1
I'veseenbetterlol Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 Let her go, completely. She is making excuses not be w/you. I've heard the same kind of lines and those situations ended up draining me emotionally. Do not let her come and go as she pleases, let her go completely. Even if she does come back, she will likely do the same thing again. 1
Simple Logic Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 She will contact you in about 4 months just to check that you are still waiting and then go NC again.
Logo Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 You must go no contact. Sadly, there is no magical solution here. It's done. It's over. There is no turning back. If you keep at it, you will cause yourself more emotional pain. Believe me!!!! That's love. **** happens and we have to move on. There is no alternative. You have to accept the fact that it's over. She might miss you, she might contact you, you'll get your hopes up and then she'll disappear. Don't fall for that. You. need. to. move. on. I'm sorry. It's time to start focusing on yourself and your healing process.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 (edited) Perhaps an ex has come back into her life or she's met someone else. I'm sorry you're dealing with this; i know it hurts a lot when it feels so sudden. If she told you that you need to let go of her; you would be best to listen to her. She knows more about her heart and mind than you do, and that's a pretty strong indication that she knows something you don't about the reasons she can't continue the relationship. Edited November 21, 2018 by ExpatInItaly
mortensorchid Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 Whatever the reason is it's done. Move on. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 All you can do is let her go. Whatever her issue, she wants to sort things out without you. You can't force her to let you in. If you had been the right guy for her, she would run toward you not away in a time of crisis. You care more about her then she cares about you. Accept that as fact & behave accordingly. Waiting only wastes your time & keeps you connected to somebody who doesn't want you.
preraph Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 It was just her way of taking blame for not wanting to be with you anymore. She carried on as if things were well until she just couldn't do it anymore and then she made it her own fault, but you didn't go away, and she hates hurting you, so when you didn't go away, she blocked you. She's been done this whole time. She reached a point she knew you weren't her match. Doesn't mean you're not a lot of other women's match, though, so chin up.
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