enchanted771 Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 I am dating someone exclusively as of Saturday...here’s my dilemma. I worry too much in relationships. It’s now the holidays but we just met so clearly too soon to go to his family house. And Christmas Eve and Christmas and probably New Years as well I’ll spend with my son and it’s way too soon to bring him into my sons life. My question is at what point should I be introduced to his family and at what point should we have a discussion (if any) about being together on the holidays? I can’t relax because I’m not worrying too much, and I don’t want to scare him off! He even mention how glad he is that he met me because he was so lonely....
Kelliousme Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 When you both are ready. Simple answer yet complicated at the same time. I mean, do you think he's the right person? Are you ready to have him meet your son? Do you think he'll stay in your life for a long time? Do you think he thinks the same? If you're not sure or you answered no to any of the above questions, then you're both not quite ready yet. Like you said, you guys only met on Saturday.. I'd give it some more time. If he invites you for Thanksgiving, then he is sure about you and he wants you to meet his family! But at this point, you should also talk to him about this matter. It's not unreasonable to not bring this up. Thanksgiving and Christmas is just around the corner and you do sound like you want to meet his family. Relationships are all about communication.
Author enchanted771 Posted November 21, 2018 Author Posted November 21, 2018 When you both are ready. Simple answer yet complicated at the same time. I mean, do you think he's the right person? Are you ready to have him meet your son? Do you think he'll stay in your life for a long time? Do you think he thinks the same? If you're not sure or you answered no to any of the above questions, then you're both not quite ready yet. Like you said, you guys only met on Saturday.. I'd give it some more time. If he invites you for Thanksgiving, then he is sure about you and he wants you to meet his family! But at this point, you should also talk to him about this matter. It's not unreasonable to not bring this up. Thanksgiving and Christmas is just around the corner and you do sound like you want to meet his family. Relationships are all about communication. I am 110% sure he isn’t going to invite me for thanksgiving and Xmas is reserved for my child. I am hoping these convos will come up as we spend more time together. I’m also sure he doesn’t want to bring me to his parents unless he knows I’m the one which is just too soon to tell anyways...I would say he could be the one but I have to spend more time with him to know...and then I guess I could bring up meeting his family
Simple Logic Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 (edited) You are making this a big deal and it shouldn’t be. Just ask him what his plans for the holidays are. Edited November 21, 2018 by Simple Logic
Lotsgoingon Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 There is no rule that says meeting the family is required after X amount of time dating. You meet the family when it feels safe for both partners to do so. Looking back, I usually met families only after I had heard lots of stories about them from my partner (or vice versa), so I could be prepared in meeting them. So you're way too early. When you meet the parents, you want to have some information about them, that you can bring to the conversation. "Oh Mrs. X, I hear you sew great dresses" or whatever. You do have the right to say, "I'm not ready to meet your family."
d0nnivain Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 You meet whenever you are ready AND it's convenient for everyone. If his family lives a plane ride away & they are coming for Thanksgiving you deal with it even though it feels too soon. Otherwise since you have only been "official" since Saturday, probably no joint holidays this year. I started dating a guy in December & met his mom & extended family that Christmas eve. They were having a party. I started dating my husband at the end of July & met his extended family that Thanksgiving because they were all flying in. On the eve of our wedding my step-MIL let it slip that the holiday had been arranged because they were all curious about me. Thank heavens I was unaware of all that pressure at the time. lol Stop stressing. If & when you meet, be gracious. That is all there is.
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