DVRadioGirl Posted November 20, 2018 Posted November 20, 2018 I’ve had a crush on a guy on my social media for ages. He’s friends with quite a few of my friends and acquaintances although I’ve not met him myself. He’s a businessman and uses social media extensively for himself and his businesses. I've been attracted to him for many years and in April last year I decided to do something about it. He has so many followers so in order to get his attention I started to like and comment on his Facebook posts and some of his Twitter posts. He liked some of them and ignored some others, but I persisted thinking that he was just busy (when he ignored a few). I then noticed after about a month or so that he was making a real point to like them all the time, replying to my comments, singling me out even when I would comment on an older post. He started to like a few of my posts too, but never my attractive photos and I thought he was just playing hard to get. This went on for 6 months or so and then I received a message from an anonymous/fake FB account asking me if I ever get a feeling that this guy is sending me mixed messages. It creeped me out so i didn't respond. I just thought it must be a jealous ex or another girl who also likes him. I also noticed that he was throwing me bait online for example he’d like the same posts as me, mimick my writing style, mimick my photos whenever he would do a post and I got a feeling that he was going into my twitter profile daily to see what I was doing and would then use that as bait for his posts. ***I have at times thought I was deluding myself with the above BUT I have shown other people and they have agreed that he is baiting me - I guess to make me chase. In March I got another detailed message from the anon/fake person on FB saying that this guy is misleading me and that throwing bait and liking all my comments is deliberate – that he’s using me as a pawn in a game he has with another girl to make her jealous because she noticed the interactions between me and him in 2017. I don’t know why I just didn’t want to believe it & I continued. I took the plunge to message him on his birthday on FB messenger and he replied really quickly. I thought that that was a good sign and that it would only be a matter of time before he started to pursue me. I got another message in June from the anon account again saying that I was being used and that he has similar game with others. I told the guy that I'm getting these messages and this person is accusing him of playing games but he just denied it. 4 months later though, he still keeps baiting me and I don’t comment anymore on his posts. I try to bait him back and put up nice photos and have even tried to make him jealous (male friend commenting on my posts) and although he has liked some of my tweets and posts on FB, he still doesn’t initiate private contact. It's like this weird cat and mouse game playing itself out online. What is this about???
Simple Logic Posted November 20, 2018 Posted November 20, 2018 This is about this guy figuring out he gets enjoyment from yanking you around.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 20, 2018 Posted November 20, 2018 Yes, It's à game to him. Notice that's he's never asked to actually meet you? He likes the attention but that's about it. It's all a bit silly, don't you think? You're jumping through hoops to get the attention of a stranger.
basil67 Posted November 20, 2018 Posted November 20, 2018 You say that you've got mutual friends. What is their perspective? Not that it really matters though... because it all sounds like a big waste of your time.
d0nnivain Posted November 20, 2018 Posted November 20, 2018 It's all a bunch of immature nonsense. A sensible businessman would not do any of what you are describing. I'm sure he is aware you are orbiting him. If he was interested he would have asked you on a date by now. Since nothing other then a few likes has happened, give up. Delete him & the anonymous person off your social media & don't look back. 1
Versacehottie Posted November 20, 2018 Posted November 20, 2018 i would even venture to say the the anonymous messages are from another female, i.e. your initial instinct could have been right. Guessing she is being jerked around much like you are and is trying to squash the "competition." Anyway, i don't think you should consider him anything and should move on. He is playing games (which to be fair, he might think you enjoy); at this point, there is nothing "real" about what is going on. And for how he is handling it, he would have lost my interest for sure. Let any additional messaging from him or the anonymous accounts be entertaining and that's it
damni Posted November 20, 2018 Posted November 20, 2018 I am 29 and this post makes me feel old. I could not understand the point of any of this? you never met this guy, so what if he was 'baiting' you? Lots of people flirt on social media liking photos etc, it means nothing. The other person messaging you is just as sad. Come on get outside and meet someone for real. 1
HumanMachine Posted November 20, 2018 Posted November 20, 2018 I’m assuming you are early teens? If so go outside and play some sport or something
smackie9 Posted November 20, 2018 Posted November 20, 2018 Guy not asking you out is because he doesn't want to......
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