jjbarr19 Posted November 19, 2018 Posted November 19, 2018 This may be on the wrong thread but seeking for advice nonetheless. My ex hits me up from time to time. Not often, like two or three times within the last 4 months but we keep in contact. I’m the only who broke NC first since the breakup, but haven’t initiated contact since. So she texted me a few days ago and seemed eager to catch up. I knew this was odd because she wasn’t much of a texter and well, I’m her ex. Eventually I spoke to her about the girl I was kind of seeing and I could tell the mood shifted. Almost like she was hurt by it. I’ve told her about who I’m seeing in past conversations, so why get all riled up this time? She then said she was having a bad day but promised to call another time. I agreed and said to take care of herself. She then replied “thank you I’ll try” I felt I should have called her, but I didn’t want to bother her so I didn’t. I knew something was up though. So I checked her Instagram and bam, all the photos of her and her SO were gone. So now it was making more sense to me. They broke up. BUT THEN a few days later all the photos are back. And now they’re in Germany together (even more confusing but bear with me) My problem is, she hits me up when things go sour with her and her girlfriend (she’s bi) and goes radio silent otherwise. I don’t know what her intentions were when she texted me. Whether it was wanting a sense of comfort, understanding, or she wanted to see me again. Either way, she texted me the day they had a really bad day and that’s what I don’t like the most. I know she’ll text me another time, who knows when. I’m just thinking, do I even respond? It would seem odd from her point of view, but I don’t trust myself with her. Though I see her as a friend now, the second we have a “moment” there’s no telling what might happen.
PegNosePete Posted November 19, 2018 Posted November 19, 2018 My problem is, she hits me up when things go sour No. Your problem is that you reply. If you just ignore her, she'll go away. That's what you want, right? If not then,,, what exactly do you want to happen here?
Chassit Posted November 22, 2018 Posted November 22, 2018 She's using you as her backup. Don't let yourself be treated that way.
Marc878 Posted November 22, 2018 Posted November 22, 2018 No contact is up to you not her. You keep biting on breadcrumbs. This is your issue.
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