Ex asked me out on my birthday

[Dericksk]

Hello,

 

We broke up 3 months ago, I caught her lying, eventually cheating, didint have direct proof back then but I believe she left me for someone else, she even initiated the breakup :/

i know i was really stupid, i shown a real doormat behaviour i guess, tried to stay in touch as I missed her.

 

But we slowly stopped the contact, which is right thing i guess. I didnt contact her for couple weeks now.

 

Its my birthday next week, so she texted me how Im doing and if I would like to go out.

 

Not really sure if i should even respond.

 

Would you go?

[fromheart]

Someone who cheats on you, doesn't deserve to spend your birthday with you. Have some self respect and give her what she deserves... nothing.

[Dericksk]

Thank you.

 

Sounds right :/

So you think its best not to reply?

[Marc878]

Bud only a doormat would slip back into this.

 

Ignore her. She doesn't deserve a response.

[Marc878]

Respect is a big deal. Most during a breakup beg, cry, plead and chase.

 

All that does is lower your status. It's very unnattractive.

 

Guys who respect themselves get respect those that don't usually get walked on.

[Zahara]

So, you caught her lying. She cheated. She dumped you. She also left you for another man.

 

And you’re asking if you should reply/go out with her?

 

Best to ask where you left your self-respect. She knows you’re a doormat and she’s likely bored or things aren’t going well with the guy so she’s looking for a crutch, which is you.

 

Best to block her and move on.

[fromheart]

Thank you.

 

Sounds right :/

So you think its best not to reply?

 

To a cheater? Not worth a response.

[Dericksk]

Thanks guys for support

 

It was my first reaction when i got that message I thought like wtf, no I dont want to meet, but it just feel bizarre to ignore her after living together for 5 years and being engaged.

[Ddog]

In my opinion you should just ignore her... They go away eventually

 

Leave,delete,and forget.

 

If you really want to respond something because you need closure in your head or something like that but keep in mind she could continue to lie and manipulate you.

 

If she knows that you know she cheated :

 

"Look, it’s over. I just want to move on and live my life in peace happy without you in it."

 

If she doesn't know that you know she cheated begin the last sentence with that before:

 

"You are just the wrong person for me. Obviously you realized it too because you cheated. I am not mad, I am relieved actually but..."

 

Been cheated on the past and ghosted them directly even if they wanted to talk. I wasn't interested to listen to some other lies, never regretted it. Better to just put your pant on and walk away! It's funny to see them react when you pass by them on the street with a another pretty girl month down the road. :lmao:

[preraph]

Show her you've moved on. Tell her nothing more than, Thanks, but I already have plans.