bman30 Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 Hey everyone, im new to this forum. Anyways, MY girls friend after 5 years has cheated on me. We have been on and off and there has been cheating here and there. But this time she did the ultimate cheat, and I am hurtin! To make things wose, she lies about it and i know she still is seeing this guy. On the other hand she tells me she loves me and wans to work it out. I would die for this girl, and I want to her to be happy. I love her so much that I don't want to be broken up but I know i have to. Anyone have any idea where to go from here?? One side of me wants to hug her and the other side of me just completely dispises (spell.?) her.
Jerkalert Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 First of all, read your post over again. This is the reason why she cheats on you. You are a complete pushover. You have relied on her for your emotional happiness. You need to get away from her and learn how to love your self and find your own happiness. Seriously, she lies to you and she cheats on you on more than one occassion. YET, YOU WOULD ACTUALLY DIE FOR SOMEONE WHO ACTUALLY HAS NOT RESPECT FOR YOU. I know it is painful and you are hurting. But think about what you just said. You are so F*&CKED up in the head that you don't even speak in reasonable thoughts. People give up their lives in the name of honor, and justice, and righteousness.
Kitteney Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 you say that in the past there was some cheating here and there BUT now she has done the ultimate cheat. What is the difference? Isn't cheating cheating? Were you the one doing the cheating in the past and now she has cheated? Some more info please.
Author bman30 Posted September 13, 2005 Author Posted September 13, 2005 No, I have Never Cheated.. When we have broken up (not longer then a month at a time) it was almost like it still wasnt OK to cheat.. anyways... only when we had been borken up nothing more than a kiss... But i feel that cheating is cheating. But Think about it Sex with someone else... Or kiss.... which would tear your heart out more? But anyways no i havent but she has. I just dont know IF i should end it.. or try to save what we may have left. I love the girl so much I dont want to get over her! .. odviously I am In need of help
Taby Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 people can make mistakes... and i for one am a forgiving type... but when the same mistake happens over and over and over again, you have to start wondering if it's really a mistake...
Candy Cane Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 Hey everyone, im new to this forum. Anyways, MY girls friend after 5 years has cheated on me. We have been on and off and there has been cheating here and there. But this time she did the ultimate cheat, and I am hurtin! To make things wose, she lies about it and i know she still is seeing this guy. On the other hand she tells me she loves me and wans to work it out. I would die for this girl, and I want to her to be happy. I love her so much that I don't want to be broken up but I know i have to. Anyone have any idea where to go from here?? One side of me wants to hug her and the other side of me just completely dispises (spell.?) her. The relationship sounds sort of messed up. On and off for five years. Was this dating on/off thing supposed to last forever or did you two have some goal in mind? If there were no goal, then she really hasn't done anything wrong. You've got to put in into perspective. You want her to be committed to you but yet there has been no real commitment established. So...no harm no foul. Cut her loose. It's not going anywhere anyway. Find someone who wants a committed relationship and then marry her. Quit messing around for five years in an unhealthy relationship.
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