When To Tell Her I Don't Want a Relationship?.

[Larry88]

If you don’t want a committed relationship at all: before the first date.

 

If you don’t want a committed relationship with her specifically: as soon as you are aware of this fact, figured out what you want.

 

Okay. What if I dig her initially and we have a good 3 or 4 dates and no red flags but my interest level drops a little on the 5rh date? Do I stop seeing her immediately?

[losangelena]

Unless she is ok with dating indefintely without a definitive label on where it is going.

 

What woman in her right mind is okay with the above scenario?

 

Also, why does the woman need to do all the initiating? She needs to initiate sex, she needs to initiate important conversations. Jeez, what are you even doing there?

[losangelena]

Okay. What if I dig her initially and we have a good 3 or 4 dates and no red flags but my interest level drops a little on the 5rh date? Do I stop seeing her immediately?

 

I don’t think it needs to be “immediate,” unless you know it’s a permanent decline in interest. Some men have a dip and then come back up. If interest is in a downward trend, though, then yes as soon as you can muster. Don’t drag it out another two weeks or something. Or hem and haw to the point where she dumps you. That’s namby-pamby BS. Communicate like an adult, and stop wasting her time and energy.

[salparadise]

Y'all are being super sweet indulging Larry this way. Whomever said that women are not altruistic when it comes to men and dating, you've proven them wrong.

Edited November 17, 2018 by salparadise

[hippychick3]

Y'all are being super sweet indulging Larry this way. Whomever said that women are not altruistic when it comes to men and dating, you've proven them wrong.

 

Unfortunately, I think this is a lost cause.

[losangelena]

Y'all are being super sweet indulging Larry this way. Whomever said that women are not altruistic when it comes to men and dating, you've proven them wrong.

 

LOL

 

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[basil67]

Okay. What if I dig her initially and we have a good 3 or 4 dates and no red flags but my interest level drops a little on the 5rh date? Do I stop seeing her immediately?

 

If that interest drop tells you that you don't want to have a relationship with her, then yes. But if you do think there's still a chance, then keep seeing her.

 

Is this actually happening, or are you just running through imaginary scenarios?

[guest569]

Okay. What if I dig her initially and we have a good 3 or 4 dates and no red flags but my interest level drops a little on the 5rh date? Do I stop seeing her immediately?

 

Is this where you are at with her currently? Why do you think your interest level has dropped? Sometimes it's tricky to know how you feel about a person but you just have to figure out if your interest level is high enough that you want to see her again. From your first post you have already decided that you don't want a relationship with her. But from the above post you sound conflicted.

[Gretchen12]

Is this where you are at with her currently? Why do you think your interest level has dropped? Sometimes it's tricky to know how you feel about a person but you just have to figure out if your interest level is high enough that you want to see her again. From your first post you have already decided that you don't want a relationship with her. But from the above post you sound conflicted.

 

There is no "her".

 

That's my point with my earlier post. Larry is talking about what to do in case of a fire. There's no fire right now.

[ElKay]

I've always, without exceptions, told my dates or even matches on okcupid that I was looking for a serious relationship only. I believe it's only fair to have clear expectations. Then, if either of us doesn't see the potential of it anymore, the onus is on us to stop the dating process.

[salparadise]

I've always, without exceptions, told my dates or even matches on okcupid that I was looking for a serious relationship only. I believe it's only fair to have clear expectations. Then, if either of us doesn't see the potential of it anymore, the onus is on us to stop the dating process.

 

I always tell mine that I'm looking for a serious relationship too, but we always have to start at the beginning... so let's have sex and we'll figure this out later.

[salparadise]

There is no "her".

 

That's my point with my earlier post. Larry is talking about what to do in case of a fire. There's no fire right now.

 

Larry is talking to multiple women now, albeit by exchanging pixels... he has found the most charming way of pushing y'all's buttons in without being offensive. I'm taking notes.