Finally clicked, but moving away

[Air20]

Hi,

 

I'm in my mid 20's, a gay guy, and never been in a long-term relationship. I've had so many dates where the other guy liked me, but I didn't feel the same, and vice-versa.

 

However, with my current date, we've met a few times, and we're clicking.

The problem is, I could be leaving, depending on if I'm accepted for a college course abroad in the States. I had a feeling that this would happen,that I finally find a guy I like and want to spend time with them, then I end up leaving.

 

This may sound ridiculous, but part of me is hoping I'm not excepted on the course so I can continue going out with him. I'm settled where I live at the moment, and job is ok. I was thinking I could defer if I was accepted at the college. The course would be for a year.

I know things wouldn't necessarily work out with him if I stayed, but my heart will ache so much knowing that I could be leaving something special behind. I've never felt true love before really.

 

Maybe we could have a long distance relationship, but not sure about that. The college plan has been a long time in the making so I should stick to it really, but I feel a bit stuck at the moment.

 

Any advice/thoughts greatly appreciated, thanks

[d0nnivain]

He's just a guy you met at this point. Yes I realize you are clicking but he's still external to you. College has been a dream for a long time. The education you get will be with you forever. A romance even one that leads to marriage is not guarantee & won't help you get or keep employment. If you two are meant to be, you will survive while you are away. LDRs are hard but not impossible. See how things play out.

[smackie9]

Stop worrying so much you just met. Enjoy his company and just let the chips fall where they lay.

 

 

 

I know someone who was feeling they were missing opportunity with someone and chased them hard/felt they were special...well he ended up with someone else 5 years later and just got married last week.

 

 

 

If you let this guy slip away, there will be someone else, probably more promising, and happy that your wait/risks were worth it.

[guest569]

That’s really tricky..

 

When you say you’re clicking, what do you mean? How do you feel about him? Do you think it could go long term or too early to say? Do you know what he wants in life and future?

 

With college, how long has it been in the making? What will it mean for your future, job prospects and financial situation? Would deferring set you back? How long until you find out? This might give you some more time to weigh things up and get to know him better to make a decision.