Gaeta Posted November 15, 2018 Posted November 15, 2018 Hi All Thank you for your continued replies. I feel differently today. I am going to continue things as they are. I have given him plenty of clues to know I’m interested. I strongly believe it’s the mans place to pursue me. I hope he asks for my number, but if not that’s ok too. On another note I did make chocolate chip oatmeal bars! Wish I could share with you guys!! But we know men are not good at reading 'clues' right? What are those clues you left here and there that he should have caught on? You need to give this guy a big green light for him to get it.
BaileyB Posted November 16, 2018 Posted November 16, 2018 I have given him plenty of clues to know I’m interested. I strongly believe it’s the mans place to pursue me. I hope he asks for my number, but if not that’s ok too. I also believe that it's the man's place to pursue... But, sometimes they need a cue that their interest will be reciprocated. Sometimes, they need a great big two-by-four over the head... If you are interested, bake him some goodies and deliver them to him. Then wait, and see how he responds. You can show your interest, without having to take the lead and ask him out. Good things happen to those who take chances. Nothing good will come to you if you sit back and say, if he really wants me, he is going to have come to me... That's your ego talking - and I would ask, what's more important, boosting your ego or finding possible happiness. 2
Highndry Posted November 16, 2018 Posted November 16, 2018 I also believe that it's the man's place to pursue... But, sometimes they need a cue that their interest will be reciprocated. Sometimes, they need a great big two-by-four over the head... If you are interested, bake him some goodies and deliver them to him. Then wait, and see how he responds. You can show your interest, without having to take the lead and ask him out. Good things happen to those who take chances. Nothing good will come to you if you sit back and say, if he really wants me, he is going to have come to me... That's your ego talking - and I would ask, what's more important, boosting your ego or finding possible happiness. I agree. I think oftentimes women think they're giving obvious cues when they're really not. There have been a number of times where I found out, in hindsight, that a woman really liked me. I'm talking years later. I had no idea. You have to be obvious. 2
BaileyB Posted November 16, 2018 Posted November 16, 2018 I agree. I think oftentimes women think they're giving obvious cues when they're really not. There have been a number of times where I found out, in hindsight, that a woman really liked me. I'm talking years later. I had no idea. You have to be obvious. And vice versa. I have learned after the fact that a guy was interested - and I had no idea... I bet he’s thinking - “I gave her children gifts, what do I have to do... (to get her to bring me some baked goods to show me that she is also interested)” Give him the green light OP, and see where he takes it... 2
Dis Posted November 18, 2018 Posted November 18, 2018 Awww he seems like a really nice guy! Maybe he got burned in the past so he's hesitant to make a move. It's better than a guy that's all over you and only wants to get in your pants I think the man should pursue the woman too but honestly, I've found that great things happen when we break some less important rules Give him your number and let things progress naturally, there's no rush You seem like an awesome person, dive and you deserve the best Give him time to come out of his shell and do your own thing in the meantime Good luck! 1
Author divegrl Posted November 28, 2018 Author Posted November 28, 2018 I invited him over to hang out. He seemed really nervous. And I was really nervous. We still don’t have each other’s phone numbers yet. Hopefully he stops by. I don’t know. He seems so nice. Not the typical guy I date. But I have had such bad luck.... Hopefully he will stop by! 3
BaileyB Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 Good for you! Regardless of what happens, you were brave and you took a risk... you should be very proud. I do hope it works out for you... 3
JuneL Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 I invited him over to hang out. He seemed really nervous. And I was really nervous. We still don’t have each other’s phone numbers yet. Hopefully he stops by. I don’t know. He seems so nice. Not the typical guy I date. But I have had such bad luck.... Hopefully he will stop by! Good job If he’s really nervous, that means he’s interested in you that way 2
Highndry Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 I invited him over to hang out. He seemed really nervous. And I was really nervous. We still don’t have each other’s phone numbers yet. Hopefully he stops by. I don’t know. He seems so nice. Not the typical guy I date. But I have had such bad luck.... Hopefully he will stop by! Haha, good! Nerves mean you both are interested. I love it. More women need to take the initiative. 2
Gaeta Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 I invited him over to hang out. He seemed really nervous. And I was really nervous. We still don’t have each other’s phone numbers yet. Hopefully he stops by. I don’t know. He seems so nice. Not the typical guy I date. But I have had such bad luck.... Hopefully he will stop by! Good stuff !I am very proud of you ! :-) and looking forward to hear more 1
Author divegrl Posted November 28, 2018 Author Posted November 28, 2018 Thank you all for following along. Yes last night we were talking for 15 minutes about our families, the holidays. He had a huge smile on his face the entire time. I’m sure I did too. I kept waiting for him to ask me out, but he didn’t. He intrigues me. There are no sweet words, or “you are beautiful”, etc. But he practically chases me down every time I see him! 1
Highndry Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 Thank you all for following along. Yes last night we were talking for 15 minutes about our families, the holidays. He had a huge smile on his face the entire time. I’m sure I did too. I kept waiting for him to ask me out, but he didn’t. He intrigues me. There are no sweet words, or “you are beautiful”, etc. But he practically chases me down every time I see him! This is absolutely perfect. It's exactly how a relationship should start. No online dating, not fakery, just genuine attraction and interaction.
JuneL Posted January 18, 2019 Posted January 18, 2019 So have you seen this neighbor again? How’re things going?
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