irresolute Posted November 12, 2018 Posted November 12, 2018 Hi, I reconnected with someone from the past. We had a relationship that was never serious, nonetheless we shared a lot of moments together. I found him at a dating site and sent him a message asking to reconnect. He texted me back to my phone. Conversation was ok but he asked me why is it the rush of the first months fades. As I am in the mental health field, I explained why. He said he had a girlfriend for the past 3 years but things are not going as he would like, that she is cold with him blah blah. I started to feel uncomfortable at that point. I suggested counseling, as a joke but being serious at the same time. It was a light exchange overall. Then he asked me for a picture so he could daydream (his words) he even texted me “my name” and the word “now”. Not sure if he was giving me an order or if he was talking to someone else telling to whom he was speaking?? Anyway, I replied: -? Lol im busy right now, you should ask your girlfriend for a picture lol He replied: - ok sexy girl, have an awesome day it was great talking to you xoxoxo Hours later I log in to this dating site and discovered he blocked me. I wonder if I was rude suggesting he asks her gf for a pic or what... Any clues?
stillafool Posted November 12, 2018 Posted November 12, 2018 No, he just didn't want any more exchanges that his gf may discover. He enjoyed hearing from you but was quite clear he is in love with his gf but wants more of her love than she is giving.
Author irresolute Posted November 12, 2018 Author Posted November 12, 2018 I thought I was too rude and direct and for that reason he blocked me. I’m not sure why he replied to my request of reconnecting then, or why he is even in a dating site when he’s with someone else.
Mrs._December Posted November 12, 2018 Posted November 12, 2018 So Prince Charming already has a girlfriend of 3 years, but because things aren't all rainbows and unicorns for them, he's already on a dating site looking for replacements? I wouldn't be surprised if his girlfriend found his dating profile and proceeded to go in and block all the women he's been hitting on from his account. Consider yourself fortunate. He's a sleazeball. 4
Redhead14 Posted November 12, 2018 Posted November 12, 2018 So Prince Charming already has a girlfriend of 3 years, but because things aren't all rainbows and unicorns for them, he's already on a dating site looking for replacements? I wouldn't be surprised if his girlfriend found his dating profile and proceeded to go in and block all the women he's been hitting on from his account. Consider yourself fortunate. He's a sleazeball. Yep his girlfriend of 3 years has a "prince charming" . . . now you have a window to what your 3 year relationship with him might have looked like when things got less rosy . . .
Author irresolute Posted November 12, 2018 Author Posted November 12, 2018 He said sex slowed down to almost nothing and that his gf wants some space and free time for herself but at the same time she wants “the full thing” which he considers unfair. He also said he misses the adrenaline of meeting someone new and all that implies. 1
Malin889 Posted November 12, 2018 Posted November 12, 2018 Hmm, that’s too bad his relationship is “slowing down” but maybe he shouldn’t be on a dating site until the relationship is no more. Overlapping is never a good thing and only hurts everyone involved. Maybe he didn’t block you but just took his profile down. Maybe he realized he should do the right thing and break off with someone before starting someone new with someone else. 1
Redhead14 Posted November 12, 2018 Posted November 12, 2018 He said sex slowed down to almost nothing and that his gf wants some space and free time for herself but at the same time she wants “the full thing” which he considers unfair. He also said he misses the adrenaline of meeting someone new and all that implies. He also said he misses the adrenaline of meeting someone new and all that implies. - What he's telling you is that he loves the feeling of being in love and when that goes away (which usually does after a period time), he starts looking for that "feeling" again. He's a love junkie. I think you're seeing why that relationship isn't working anymore. He's bored with her. You would be his next "fix" and then the junkie will want another fix and will find another dealer. 2
SunnyWeather Posted November 12, 2018 Posted November 12, 2018 (edited) <SNIP> Hours later I log in to this dating site and discovered he blocked me. I wonder if I was rude suggesting he asks her gf for a pic or what... Any clues? so, on one hand, you expressed good boundaries, and yet you seem to be harboring feelings like you would've been game if he hadn't blocked you. in short, why do you care if he blocked you? he's not looking for someone to remind him of his deceitful behavior, he's looking for some easy side action. Edited November 13, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author irresolute Posted November 12, 2018 Author Posted November 12, 2018 so, on one hand, you expressed good boundaries, and yet you seem to be harboring feelings like you would've been game if he hadn't blocked you. in short, why do you care if he blocked you? he's not looking for someone to remind him of his deceitful behavior, he's looking for some easy side action. I was worried I was being too direct or rude, which I wouldn’t want to be. I know sometimes I’m too direct and that’s something I’d like to change for myself I don’t care he blocked me personally but lately many people had stopped communicating with me so I’m wondering if I’m being rude or what
SunnyWeather Posted November 12, 2018 Posted November 12, 2018 I was worried I was being too direct or rude, which I wouldn’t want to be. I know sometimes I’m too direct and that’s something I’d like to change for myself I don’t care he blocked me personally but lately many people had stopped communicating with me so I’m wondering if I’m being rude or what sometimes, being direct is what the situation calls for. worrying over this seems to be something women have to contend with. imo, you were too generous with your response, trying to be flirty and easy on his ego in delivering what the facts in front of you were screaming.If it were me, I'd feel like taking a shower after that interaction. 1
kendahke Posted November 12, 2018 Posted November 12, 2018 I thought I was too rude and direct and for that reason he blocked me. I’m not sure why he replied to my request of reconnecting then, or why he is even in a dating site when he’s with someone else. I don't think you were rude at all. Frankly, I thought (your name) "now" was rude and you are right--he needs to get pics from his girlfriend not you. Both times, I think you dodged a bullet--back then and now.
Versacehottie Posted November 12, 2018 Posted November 12, 2018 He said sex slowed down to almost nothing and that his gf wants some space and free time for herself but at the same time she wants “the full thing” which he considers unfair. He also said he misses the adrenaline of meeting someone new and all that implies. Idk, I hate to be the morality police, but you say you are in mental health and you actually accept his explanation for looking outside his relationship and care if he blocked you?? Idk, maybe you should just draw a line and consider yourself lucky and let him be someone else's problem? 1
smackie9 Posted November 12, 2018 Posted November 12, 2018 There might be a reason why his GF is pulling away....he's got issues. You are only getting his side and it may not be as truthful as you might think.....you should know in your field that most people lie/manipulate or are in denial or have a distorted perspective or all of the above.
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