guest569 Posted November 14, 2018 Posted November 14, 2018 (edited) Its not really a trust thing with me, i think its more a routine i like and that feels secure. For example my ex would text everyday on her dinner break 1pm just about on the dot, if she suddenly didn't after 2 years of doing it i would of worried somethint was up, You mean if she didn't text you at 1pm one day you would worry that she fell off the planet? Dead? Cheating? Or that she doesn't love you and is leaving? Is that what happened? Either way it doesn't seem reasonable to expect that in every relationship. So she's not your ex. I'm usually off walking and clearing my head on my break. I can't stand that much routine or feeling controlled. Have ya talked about the future much? I still suspect a lack of trust. You don't trust her feelings for you, or your relationship. Edited November 14, 2018 by smiley1 1
MaleIntuition Posted November 14, 2018 Posted November 14, 2018 I was trying to browse through some of your previous threads. You’ve been dating for only 3,5 month?
Logo Posted November 15, 2018 Posted November 15, 2018 I don't know whether she cheats or not, but let me tell you this. I was a serious cheater back in the day, and this is EXACTLY how I acted. To a t. I would be the sweetest guy in person, talking about commitment, giving gifts, having genuine love towards my partners. But as soon as I was left alone: holidays, going out, parties, etc. I would disappear from the face of the earth. I was looking for validation from anyone and anything, and texting doesn't cut it. Whether it was actual physical cheating, unfulfillable flirting with committed people (even if we went out as couples!), emotional cheating, or just plain looking around at what's there, the very prospect of being able to do that killed the need to contact my partner. And I used those excuses: I'm not a social media kind of person, my phone broke, I was busy. A person who posts pictures to FB is a social media kind of person. Phones don't break that often. And you are never that busy to not drop one text a day. Man was I an *******, but if there's anything good that came out of it, it's for me to warn you: have eyes open wide like a mother****er! I'm really curious about this. I wouldn't mind starting a new thread about the subject. But, I have to ask. Why was the attention you got from your girlfriend not enough? You wrote that you were looking for validation from anyone. Why was the validation you got from your gf not enough? I'm really curious as I'm trying to understand the mindset, not yours, but of people who need that constant validation and end up cheating. Looking forward to hearing from you.
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