Hurting. Posted November 9, 2018 Posted November 9, 2018 Hi So me and this girl vaguely know each other as we live in the same town. Couple weeks ago she replied to one of my social media posts asking what it meant (nothing of significance) Ever since we’ve been chatting every day, very often. Nothing sexual or anything big just general conversation about each other, lots of questions etc I won’t lie, I found out she had a boyfriend after couple days but I’ve kept talking to her as she’s nice and a good convo. She mentions her boyfriend by name (who I don’t know) a few times also, so I’m not sure if this ongoing conversation is just completely innocent and friendly. But I’d obly talk to someone everyday if I was interested. Which I am. But complicated, thoughts ? She’s 23 and I’m 27.
GTR King Posted November 9, 2018 Posted November 9, 2018 She is only being friendly... She has a boyfriend and wants nothing more from you... 1
BMWN52 Posted November 9, 2018 Posted November 9, 2018 (edited) Hi So me and this girl vaguely know each other as we live in the same town. Couple weeks ago she replied to one of my social media posts asking what it meant (nothing of significance) Ever since we’ve been chatting every day, very often. Nothing sexual or anything big just general conversation about each other, lots of questions etc I won’t lie, I found out she had a boyfriend after couple days but I’ve kept talking to her as she’s nice and a good convo. She mentions her boyfriend by name (who I don’t know) a few times also, so I’m not sure if this ongoing conversation is just completely innocent and friendly. But I’d obly talk to someone everyday if I was interested. Which I am. But complicated, thoughts ? She’s 23 and I’m 27. Shes a attention whore and treating you like a gay male boyfriend. If she has a bf, there's nothing really there for you. If you want to escalate things, just say i'm not interested in being friends, let me know when your single or change your mind. Just walk away. Or you risk getting your ass beat if the bf finds out. Your call. Basically you're in the category of an " orbiter" look that up, basically, a girl keeps you around in case things don't work and they string you along. You might get laid, but having a relationship is going to be complicated. Edited November 9, 2018 by BMWN52
Lotsgoingon Posted November 9, 2018 Posted November 9, 2018 You don't want to assume someone taken has an interest in you ... simply because they're talking to you a lot. Some people simply don't know how to set boundaries--as in they're not aware that talking to someone everyday communicates priority and interest. Some people are blind to that. Don't assume interest ... keep looking if you want to find someone to date. But let's say she was interested and she was flirting, basically you still don't want to get involved because she already has a bf and getting with her would only produce stress and strain and secrecy and drama. So either way, you want to stay in your own lane, avoid pursuing anything.
Marc878 Posted November 9, 2018 Posted November 9, 2018 Men typically see things that aren't there. This may or may not be the case. If this was your gf would you be ok with it? Let that be your guide
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