Fairyface55 Posted November 9, 2018 Posted November 9, 2018 Hey guys You will know from my previous post I was pretty messed around with the last guy I was dating. Now I am so anxious. Went out on Wednesday with a guy and it went really well - he kissed me twice and said about seeing me next week at some point. He has not texted me since so I texted him a fairly neutral text - asking him how his day was and wishing him a good weekend. No reply as yet. I just wondered if him not texting me means a lack of interest or if I just wait to see it out? Thanks
smackie9 Posted November 9, 2018 Posted November 9, 2018 What do you think?, Actions or the lack there of, speaks louder than words. 2
Author Fairyface55 Posted November 9, 2018 Author Posted November 9, 2018 Agree - he seen my message and replied instantly. Asked a few questions. If a man was not interested in you - would he just not reply?
smackie9 Posted November 9, 2018 Posted November 9, 2018 In your first post he hasn't replied...then you say he replied instantly. I think you are being a little cray cray over a guy you only had one date with. Take a breather, and let things happen.
GTR King Posted November 9, 2018 Posted November 9, 2018 If the guy was interested he would reply and give you a firm date... Sounds like he didn't wanna say no so used the I am free at some point next week and left it at that... If he replies with a date great if not move on
PRW Posted November 9, 2018 Posted November 9, 2018 He has not texted me since so I texted him a fairly neutral text - asking him how his day was and wishing him a good weekend. No reply as yet. I'll just echo the others. But you need to stop doing this. After the date just wait till you hear from them again. Until you do you should be taking advantage of other date opportunities you should be making an effort to have. You don't owe anyone anything after a simple First Date, and they don't owe you anything either. You are still strangers, you don't really know each other. Now if you become exclusively BF/GF then that is a different story and you drop off any others you might have been seeing. You are anxious because you are coming from a scarcity mindset, that your options are "few, if any",...thinking each one you meet might be "The One". You need to stop getting yourself into that kind of state.
I'veseenbetterlol Posted November 9, 2018 Posted November 9, 2018 If the guy was interested he would reply and give you a firm date... Sounds like he didn't wanna say no so used the I am free at some point next week and left it at that... If he replies with a date great if not move on Anytime someone you just went on a date makes vague plans be prepared for there to be no plans. If a guy was interested in me the texting was always consistent.
mortensorchid Posted November 10, 2018 Posted November 10, 2018 If you haven't heard anything from him within 48 hours after the first get together, you will not hear from him again 90% of the time. The other 10% of the time he might call / text you a few days later, you might have a second get together with him, but he doesn't really care if you say yes or no to the second get together. He'll just be a friend. Years of experience has taught me this.
Author Fairyface55 Posted November 10, 2018 Author Posted November 10, 2018 Thanks - you are so right. X
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