simpleinterest Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 my wife refuses to discuss her feelings...particulary regarding sex. before you assume that i haven't made her feel safe and comfortable...let me assure you that i have done everything imaginable and more. recently several things have happened that have made me somewhat suspicous...and, i'm not the suspicous or jealous type. with that in mind, does anyone know if there is an online fidelity/sex test or quiz that can be sent to her that would allow me to know the results? please no scolding or judging...just your assistance, which would be greatly appreciated.
bluechocolate Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 ....does anyone know if there is an online fidelity/sex test or quiz that can be sent to her that would allow me to know the results? Not me. I'm highly doubtful that the result of an internet quiz will allay your suspicions or even throw up the truth, for that matter.
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 If she has something going on, she will be hyper-aware of anything you may be doing that suggests you think something is going on. If you were to send her a test like that (even anonymously), she would immediately know that you sent it and that you are suspicious. She will simply bury herself deeper to avoid detection. If she actually took the test, she'd lie about her answers to placate you and hide what she has going on. If you want to catch someone at what they are doing, you have to give them the impression that you know and suspect NOTHING. Then, even as you are instilling a sense of 'confidence' in the WS that you don't suspect anything - you can be doing some serious digging on your own time. Get yourself a keylogger for the computer. Get detailed, itemized cell and phone bills. Get a voice activated recorder for calls or for her car. Some people go so far as to get 'sperm detection' kits for underwear, etc. If you have the money, invest in a PI. Do not, under any circumstance let your W know what you are doing or even hint at it. Get the proof that may or may not be there - then you'll want to confront. Generally speaking, by the time you have a 'gut feeling' about an affair - it is already on its way to full blown, if not already there. You tend to see the tip of the giant iceberg, and if you come to a WS with nothing but suspicion - they'll hand you an ice chip and expect you to believe that is all there is. Specifically to your situation - what other things have you noticed?
933KJL Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 Is she spending more time than usual online? Maybe at odd hours? She won't discuss sex with you..check her underwear. This occurs in almost all of the cheatnig wife scenarios--they will buy new underwear to impress their lover. Especially telling is the style if it is different than what she typically wore with you. If you want some insight, there is a free website called philanderers dot com and it offers all sorts of tips and tricks for how to NOT get caught.
lust4life Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 One of the first signs of cheating, if she won't let you check her email, then she is keeping secrets. There should be no secrets within a marriage. You can also purchase keylogger for the computer to check what she does online. Does she work? 90% of affairs happen at the work place. Make a few surprise visits there, try to go pick her up for lunch etc... As we women say, 90% of your proof is your gut instinct. Trust your instincts. You know if your wife has time and the inclinatoin to have an affair, you haven't been dating your own wife. This is one thing I have learned from infidelity, if we don't pay attention to our own spouses - someone else will. We should all be having love affairs with our own spouses.
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