Author TaintedLuv Posted November 10, 2018 Author Posted November 10, 2018 (edited) I'd say that's an overgeneralization. And I have a big problem with one of the conditions being 'he's into you'. How does the woman KNOW that the guy who drops her was into her? It's a subjective judgement call. I don't do 'post mortems' with my dating partners when we stop seeing each other. But (I like to think that) I'm polite, attentive, and affectionate enough that they MIGHT erroneously conclude that I was 'into them'. Just sayin' Also FWIW, and it may be my demographic and picker, I have yet to meet a woman on OLD who was going through a break up, recently went through a break up, or appeared (to me) to have any kind of a mental disorder (unless not judging me to be 'a great catch' can be classified as such ). So what you’re saying is if a guy texts you everyday throughout the entire day, tells you he misses you, calls you *insert terms of endearment*, spends his limited free time with you that that’s just their nature so we should not preclude any actual interest until it’s explicitly stated ? Hmm. When someone says “I really really like you” and explicitly states they want to pursue something with you when you ask, that’s also just standard protocol? I guess he’s just a sweet talker and a blatant liar. Edited November 10, 2018 by TaintedLuv
preraph Posted November 10, 2018 Posted November 10, 2018 God, he's judgy about you having condoms. Please. This is so stupid. You should be glad someone you just slept with is careful and also realize you too were part of the casual sex equation. Double standard is BS. I wouldn't even consider going out with him again. So insecure, judgemental, double standard, and just plain wrong.
nospam99 Posted November 10, 2018 Posted November 10, 2018 So what you’re saying is if a guy texts you everyday throughout the entire day, tells you he misses you, calls you *insert terms of endearment*, spends his limited free time with you that that’s just their nature so we should not preclude any actual interest until it’s explicitly stated ? Hmm. When someone says “I really really like you” and explicitly states they want to pursue something with you when you ask, that’s also just standard protocol? I guess he’s just a sweet talker and a blatant liar. Nope, not saying THAT. IMO your first example passes the 'he's into you' test. Your second example is indeed standard protocol for many guys, not me though. If I say 'really really', my date knows I'm doing a humorous Shrek imitation and if I was asked if I wanted to 'pursue something' I'd ask for clarification. The question SHOULD be phrased 'Are you interested in a committed relationship?' My answer is likely to be either 'Yes' (translates to I'm into her) or 'We don't know each other well enough yet to decide.' This is NOT rocket science.
Author TaintedLuv Posted November 10, 2018 Author Posted November 10, 2018 Nope, not saying THAT. IMO your first example passes the 'he's into you' test. Your second example is indeed standard protocol for many guys, not me though. If I say 'really really', my date knows I'm doing a humorous Shrek imitation and if I was asked if I wanted to 'pursue something' I'd ask for clarification. The question SHOULD be phrased 'Are you interested in a committed relationship?' My answer is likely to be either 'Yes' (translates to I'm into her) or 'We don't know each other well enough yet to decide.' This is NOT rocket science. Yes that’s my point. It was quite obvious. I wasn’t going to bring up commitment that soon so I asked if he was interested in pursuing this with me and he said yes and if he wasn’t interested, he’d flat out tell me. Four days later, he disappeared.
LoverOfDance Posted November 10, 2018 Posted November 10, 2018 @Nospam - tf? Not everyone thinks, talks or operates like you. I'm sure you know this. Op, this kind of stuff is just supposed to flow. If it doesn't flow, let it go. It doesn't matter why he cut the cord, IT LITERALLY DOES NOT MATTER. Who TF cares. Please close his chapter and move on. Don't bother yourself with this anymore.
nospam99 Posted November 10, 2018 Posted November 10, 2018 @Nospam - tf? Not everyone thinks, talks or operates like you. I'm sure you know this. Yes, I know. My CONCERN is that, on the other hand, not everyone thinks, talks, or operates like creeps either. Some posters in this (and other) thread(s) have painted 'all men' and 'all men on OLD' with a broad brush of disrespectful behavior (or worse, mental illness). I'm quite sure that is helpful to neither the men nor to women like the OP who are unceremoniously dropped.
Larry56 Posted November 11, 2018 Posted November 11, 2018 He wasn't leading you on on purpose. What happened is that he observed everything about you...once he had sex with you it consolidated every good and bad thing in his mind about you. There was probably more things going on that affected his decision. Like how you sound, how you dress, the relationships you have with other people. He accessed everything and came to the conclusion that you didn't tick enough boxes to be his girlfriend. 1
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