lavenderandvelvet Posted November 7, 2018 Posted November 7, 2018 So I went on a bad date over the weekend. Though to guy was overly confident on my level of interest. Throughout the whole thing he was in the mindset there was no way I would not be interested in him. And he was trying to plan all sorts of future things. And basically thought it was a lock. He was also terrible and very selfish. Didn’t even care enough to do the fake let me know you got home safe. At the end I was super vague about next steps. I knew straight away O was not interested and not going out would mean dodging a bullet. He left me a couple of texts and missed calls after. So I decided to reply with “nice meeting you, don’t think we are a good fit, good luck.” The response I got from him was hilarious. To paraphrase “well you weren’t very cute anyway, I think we are a bad match too. Here are some tips so you can be more attractive.” This guy clearly can’t handle rejection and was a super classy guy. Have you had someone get p.o.ed like that for the rejection?
smackie9 Posted November 7, 2018 Posted November 7, 2018 I was accused of leading them on...and I'm like what? There was no physical contact, flirting or bs about seeing them again. Frickin losers.
some_username1 Posted November 7, 2018 Posted November 7, 2018 I went on a second date with a girl who thought she could make me jealous by grinding up against other men on the dancefloor of a nightclub while looking back at me to see what I was gonna do about it. I was on the fence about her even before that so what I did was just laugh and leave her to it. I just walked out of the club and went home. When she realised that I had gone I received a missed call and then a voice message telling me she hoped I got cancer or that some ne'er-do-well would turn up on my doorstep and knife me. So I was really regretting my decison by this point The scary thing about all of that is that she doesn't even make the top 3 craziest women I've dated 1
Redhead14 Posted November 7, 2018 Posted November 7, 2018 (edited) {snip} The response I got from him was hilarious. To paraphrase “well you weren’t very cute anyway, I think we are a bad match too. Here are some tips so you can be more attractive.” This guy clearly can’t handle rejection and was a super classy guy. Have you had someone get p.o.ed like that for the rejection? So I guess it wasn't fun going on a date with a 12 year old? "I know you are, but what am I" LOLLLLL Pee Wee Herman dealt with that in the movie Pee Wee's Big Adventure, I think. LOLLLLLLLLLL Edited November 8, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 3
Zahara Posted November 8, 2018 Posted November 8, 2018 I experienced a few of these back in the day when I was on OLD. One stands out — I got home after the date and he texted to see if I’d like to go out again. I responded gently with something similar to your response. He replied, “F*** off.” You’re going to run into these types. Just let it roll off your back.
mortensorchid Posted November 8, 2018 Posted November 8, 2018 Oi ... You don't want to admit that your ego is as big as it is, that's why some mistreat others the way they do. I hope they didn't hurt you badly, just close the book and move on.
preraph Posted November 8, 2018 Posted November 8, 2018 Just be glad you saw the red flags and didn't keep getting invested. Good job. He's obviously a tool.
ChatroomHero Posted November 8, 2018 Posted November 8, 2018 That's when you need to reply something like, "Whoa, what are you talking about? My speech to text was auto corrected. I was trying to say I really think we are a good match. Good Night"...or something like that, then enjoy him back pedaling for laughs. 3
Gretchen12 Posted November 8, 2018 Posted November 8, 2018 You realize of course he is so angry because everyone has been rejecting him his whole life for good reason. 2
losangelena Posted November 8, 2018 Posted November 8, 2018 That's when you need to reply something like, "Whoa, what are you talking about? My speech to text was auto corrected. I was trying to say I really think we are a good match. Good Night"...or something like that, then enjoy him back pedaling for laughs. Lol, I am trying that next time!
Ruby Slippers Posted November 8, 2018 Posted November 8, 2018 I got an insulting message on a dating site today from a guy I went on one mediocre date with like 2 years ago, rejected when he tried to make a move, and never saw again. It really doesn't get any more loser than this guy and the guy you just rejected. To think, he's still bitter two years later!
Jamess1 Posted November 8, 2018 Posted November 8, 2018 Everyone has struggled with rejection once in their lives, men have to place themselves in a position they initiate and risk been rejected, and it's this rejection some handle in a good / bad way.Women are in a position they either accept or reject- despite having a crush on guys-women will never risk rejection,since women can not handle direct rejection at all (neither in a good/bad way)..from your perspective it's easier to call him a loser, men like him didn't a strong masculine role model as a child. (Our culture claims it's toxic masculinity that makes men act that way, but it's actually a lack of masculinity) The guy u dated wasn't confident, he was insecure-he was trying to shield his insecurity/ vulnerability with been cocky. He was trying to act out confidence from the surface-with a confident man, what he did does work-in fact he is trying to imitate the confident, self-centered, rude dude who is fcks women on the 1st or 2nd date...but you can't fack confidence.. I am genuinely selfish, genuinely self-cantered,I genuinely don't give a fck...I love women because I love myself-and it works wonder for me.
Redhead14 Posted November 8, 2018 Posted November 8, 2018 Take a picture of this page and send him a picture message. Let him read the responses
d0nnivain Posted November 8, 2018 Posted November 8, 2018 Your only response should be laughter & "thank heavens". You dodged a bullet. Chalk him us as a funny dating horror story & move on.
thefooloftheyear Posted November 8, 2018 Posted November 8, 2018 it's just a classic case of "sour grapes"... People do this all the time, for a variety of circumstances...They'll get fired from their job, and go around saying the place sucked...etc "I can't have it, so it must be bad"... Its a weaklings way of justifying things that don't go their way.. I wouldn't bother spending any time and effort thinking about it... TFY 3
Saracena Posted November 8, 2018 Posted November 8, 2018 You've most definitely dodged a bullet here. If it's one thing I can't stand is viciousness or bitchiness of any kind, most especially where guys are concerned. When I split up with an ex, my friend's brother asked me out! I never had a jot of interest in this guy on any level so turned him down gently and quickly forgot about it. Next time we met in a group setting which included his sister ( who incidentally he'd asked me not to tell) when out of the blue, he told me I was too old for him anyway! Heck, we were both very early twenties and I was a few months older! I responded that I wasn't too old for him last month when he'd asked me out! That was enough to stop him in his tracks........the look on his face was priceless... 3
kendahke Posted November 8, 2018 Posted November 8, 2018 So I went on a bad date over the weekend. Though to guy was overly confident on my level of interest. Throughout the whole thing he was in the mindset there was no way I would not be interested in him. And he was trying to plan all sorts of future things. And basically thought it was a lock. He was also terrible and very selfish. Didn’t even care enough to do the fake let me know you got home safe. At the end I was super vague about next steps. I knew straight away O was not interested and not going out would mean dodging a bullet. He left me a couple of texts and missed calls after. So I decided to reply with “nice meeting you, don’t think we are a good fit, good luck.” "...and I put him on block", would have been how I resolved that. Of course he was going to come back with some lame mess. I dunno--If you're up for some PettyPatty stuff, text him back "wow, is that the best you can do? I was right to drop you off at the mall" and then block him.
rightondude Posted November 8, 2018 Posted November 8, 2018 LOL so this guy is admitting he's so desperate he goes out with women he finds unattractive? Is that it? What a loser.
Sarah_Smiles Posted November 8, 2018 Posted November 8, 2018 Wow what an a-hole that guy was. He clearly has esteem issues to reply back to you politely turning him down. Not everyone is a good match, or does he not realize that? I once was being harassed by a very drunk guy at a nightclub, right in my face asking me to dance, drink with him, I was with Gfs and declined, plus he should have been kicked out he was too drunk and after turning him down 3 times .. he stood right in my face and yelled at me " well, you aren't the prettiest girl in here anyways" to which I stood up, laughed so loud right in his face ( I was drinking too, lol) and said," Then why were you trying so hard to get with me?" and sat down and turned my back to him and he wandered off to find his next victim. 1
Author lavenderandvelvet Posted November 9, 2018 Author Posted November 9, 2018 "...and I put him on block", would have been how I resolved that. Of course he was going to come back with some lame mess. I dunno--If you're up for some PettyPatty stuff, text him back "wow, is that the best you can do? I was right to drop you off at the mall" and then block him. I was a little bit petty and told him to stay classy. . And of course blocked. Why fake? Most guys I know and even myself ask that question because we are worried. And that guy you had a date with, I have no words. Such childish behaviour. No boyfriend or even friend material there. Yes, most people do. This guy was self-centered and didn’t ask me any questions that were not centered around his needs and desires. But I find event typically the most player-esque guys ask because they want bonus points. LOL so this guy is admitting he's so desperate he goes out with women he finds unattractive? Is that it? What a loser. It was clearly sour grapes because he was trying to plan the holiday trips during the date.
Rocker71 Posted November 9, 2018 Posted November 9, 2018 I went on a second date with a girl who thought she could make me jealous by grinding up against other men on the dancefloor of a nightclub while looking back at me to see what I was gonna do about it. I was on the fence about her even before that so what I did was just laugh and leave her to it. I just walked out of the club and went home. When she realised that I had gone I received a missed call and then a voice message telling me she hoped I got cancer or that some ne'er-do-well would turn up on my doorstep and knife me. So I was really regretting my decison by this point The scary thing about all of that is that she doesn't even make the top 3 craziest women I've dated Oh wow! That is crazy! I didn't know women did that too. When a guy does that crap he's showing he is not even friend material and should be avoided. OP stay away from him. Guys like that don't get many women or can't keep them. And when they respond like that to a rejection you know their confidence was fake from the start. And yours was a polite rejection! This guy is why a lot of women just ghost or can't be forthcoming about not having chemistry with a dude. My response would be to playfully act like my heart is breaking while grinning and saying if she changes her mind call me. And leave it at that. There are lots of other women out there. The dipstick totally destroyed any chance of her reconsidering her feelings about him.
Juha Posted November 9, 2018 Posted November 9, 2018 Annoys me to a high degree that there are so many guys who are a-holes when a woman is not interested in them. Makes it so much more difficult for the non a-holes, like myself, to meet and date women. Because of this so many women have to protect themselves and thus things are so difficult sometimes. Many times have met and talked with a woman and then ask for their phone number. I then call/them and get no response or a thanks, not interested. Most of the time it is no response. They do this as there are so many weak, butt hurt guys out there who can't handle hearing no. Have many women friends tell me they do the same as they have had too many guys go off on them when they tell them not interested in person, easier to give phone number to them and then ignore them. Ahhh.....people lol
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