Linaa Posted October 21, 2018 Posted October 21, 2018 (edited) We have been Talking for a month. We had a parked car late night conversation. We both lost our grandmothers. We both like cars. He says I’m different and special. He showed me screenshots of him texting his brother telling him how he thinks he found the one because we both have a interest in cars. He fingered me once in the car after we both went half on a dinner date to Outback Steakhouse and when he dropped me off at my house he stayed parked and that’s when it happened. When we kiss he literally puts his whole tongue down my throat lol. We work together and at first he would only tell other people about how fine and sexy he thought I was but never told me. Once we eventually started talking he told me the reason he never approached me was because he talked to other girls he has worked with before and they all started acting crazy and jealous. He always boast about how good he is in bed, I’m a virgin but he thinks from how I talk when it comes to sex conversations that i’m Experienced lol. He even told me “I really think you’re gonna **** the **** out of me.” He took me out to Buffalo Wild Wings the other night. He never holds my hand or anything he just always grips or gropes the little booty I do have. He pulled out his penis the Time we were in the car and he fingered me. He Asked me if I could handle it. It’s been a month since we have been talking and today he rented out a hotel for us to have sex. Edited October 22, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
d0nnivain Posted October 21, 2018 Posted October 21, 2018 Oh my heavens Yes he wants sex. That is generally a part of dating. Does he know you are a virgin? Do you want to lose your virginity to him after "talking" for a month? I don't think that is a good idea. Tell him to cancel the hotel room. At a minimum you need to find out if you two are even dating. I suspect if you have NSA sex with this guy as a way of losing your virginity you will end up regretting the decision. A month is too soon in your case. I don't see a desire for companionship here. He knows it comes with the sex but sex more then companionship seems to be his goal & he's moving fast. You do not seem ready for his pace so you need to slow it down. Do not go to a hotel with him unless you are ready for sex. By law & morality you have the right to say no even if lying on the bed naked but better safe then sorry. Just stay out of the hotel. 1
FMW Posted October 21, 2018 Posted October 21, 2018 He's looking for sex, most definitely. IMHO, your first time should be someone who respects you (doesn't grab and fondle you) and with whom you have a trusting relationship, not someone you have just made out with in cars. Your first can have an impact on your future relationships. So be a little more choosy.
MidwestUSA Posted October 21, 2018 Posted October 21, 2018 OMG! It's obvious why he likes cars; he fingers women and exposes himself in them. He's crude, disrespectful, and disgusting. Do not go to a hotel, do not give ANYTHING up to this guy. Cut him off now, you can do better. 3
elaine567 Posted October 21, 2018 Posted October 21, 2018 OMG! It's obvious why he likes cars; he fingers women and exposes himself in them. He's crude, disrespectful, and disgusting. Do not go to a hotel, do not give ANYTHING up to this guy. Cut him off now, you can do better. ^^^^ this >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> 1
Redhead14 Posted October 21, 2018 Posted October 21, 2018 (edited) You've been talking for a month but have never had a conversation about what each of you want out of your dating journey's? With or without a conversation, it's pretty clear that he's is only looking for sex. And was this the first time you'd met him in person or gone on a actual date? I usually recommend that women go in separate cars especially on a first or second date and not allow the man to pick them up from home. You didn't really know this man, so if he picked you up at your house, it's not a good idea to let a man know where you live until after there's been a better level of trust built. And, even if you had separate cars, don't get into their car to talk. Talking can be done on the phone later or after things get on track and you are comfortable with them. You also need to do things to keep yourself safe when dating. Block and delete this guy. You can do better and have a general conversation about dating goals fairly early on. Doesn't have to be the first time you talk or meet them, but somewhere along the line and reasonably early. Edited October 22, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Redact full quote of starting post
Kelliousme Posted October 21, 2018 Posted October 21, 2018 This guy sounds far from being a decent man. If I were you I'd run. Not literally. Just tell him you're not interested anymore if you do listen to our advice. Any guy who says this: “I really think you’re gonna **** the **** out of me.” EVEN though I have no idea what the stars mean, I can already assume, this man is very disrespectful towards you. It's very obvious he's with you for sex.. and fun. Grabbing your booty instead of holding your hand, ESP when you guys only spoke for 1 month, IS A HUGE RED FLAG. Pulling his d!ck out and fingering you in his car... when you guys aren't even official.. girl I don't even know how you let him do that to you especially when you're a virgin. Please get rid of him!! Respect yourself. Otherwise.. you'll definitely regret it. 2
BaileyB Posted October 22, 2018 Posted October 22, 2018 (edited) He even told me “I really think you’re gonna **** the **** out of me.” He took me out to Buffalo Wild Wings the other night. He never holds my hand or anything he just always grips or gropes the little booty I do have. He pulled out his penis the Time we were in the car and he fingered me. He Asked me if I could handle it. Sorry, this guy is rude and very inappropriate. There is waayyyy too much sex talk/fingering/penises for you to think that he is interested in getting to know/date you - this guy wants sex. He's not even subtle or respectful about it. Lina, if you want a guy to fall in love with you, you have to expect more than fingering in the car while he shoves his tongue down your throat - and then exposes himself. Not good at all. Edited October 30, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
Author Linaa Posted October 29, 2018 Author Posted October 29, 2018 (edited) As a matter of fact we have been out to eat so many times and hung out a lot since the hotel. He’s even been over my house twice. I met his mom when she picked us both up from downtown. Even my friends think we’re cute together and asking how I lucked up with a guy like him. He still grabs my butt and kisses me with his tongue but I guess that’s how he shows affection. He doesn’t like going to the movies because he says he doesn’t like sitting through them but he does want to go to the circus. I don’t think his intentions are as bad as I thought. Although he did say he wanted to get a hotel room again. After sex he told me how he liked how I didn’t tap out, and how I was flexible and during intercourse he asked me if I was his girlfriend now. I guess he’s a sex Talker. He did say on the phone once that when he kissed me earlier that day my lips were soft but I didn’t remember seeing him earlier before we had FaceTimed then he said”never mind that probably wasn’t you I kissed but another girl, I like her too.” But he laughed it off so I believe he was playing I also think he was just kidding when he said “On new year’s eve I’m going where all the hoes are at.” Once again he laughed and I asked him if he liked his life because he’s crazy if he thinks i’m Gonna allow that lol. All in all I think we both just joke a lot him more than me and I was wrong with my last post thinking his intentions were bad. So far after sex he’s been pretty consistent. He even helped me take my hair down last night and took pictures of me while doing it lol. I think we enjoy each other. Edited October 30, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
PRW Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 It all sounds whacked to me. I'm going to predict disaster and betrayal. 2
preraph Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 Why are you choosing to ignore the fact he told you he is having sex with other girls? I mean, that's fine since you just started dating, but why are you choosing to believe otherwise? He's dating as many other women as possible and can't keep them straight. So you need to be dating other guys and not getting focused on just this one.
Zahara Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 Along with your other thread — he’s disrespectful, crude and absolutely slimey. I don’t see this working out for you. He’s only after one thing. If you want a relationship, seek quality guys and raise your standards. 1
Lisa_Lisa Posted October 30, 2018 Posted October 30, 2018 This guy is going to end up hurting you emotionally. He is not interested in you for a long term prospect. You deserve someone who is going to put you first. Try and ease off of him, date other guys, guys who are respectful and hold your hand, not your booty. You must raise your standards even though he may leave, you will win in the end because you will save yourself from the tears. 1
lovelymay Posted October 30, 2018 Posted October 30, 2018 He just wants sex, run away!! if you're a virgin your first time should be special because you'll remember it always. Do not do it with someone who is not sincerely interested in you... Chatting for a month isn't the same as real dating!
MidwestUSA Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 Do not do it with someone who is not sincerely interested in you... Too late.
LoverOfDance Posted November 1, 2018 Posted November 1, 2018 Linaaa, at first i couldn't take you seriously. I thought you weren't a real person but i guess maybe you are. Something is off about this guy. You also both sound young. I hope everything goes well for you though. If not then i really hope you learn something from this.
Author Linaa Posted November 7, 2018 Author Posted November 7, 2018 I mean he did pick me up from work at 11:00 pm and that was nice of him. It just happened and people have car sex right? That’s normal.
carhill Posted November 7, 2018 Posted November 7, 2018 Pretty cool. Back in the day it was a pretty normal teenage thing at 'lovers lane' or a back in the corner slot at the drive-in movie. Parents generally weren't as accepting of sex in their house as they are now. Sometimes when you gotta do it, you gotta do it. Waiting isn't a factor.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 7, 2018 Posted November 7, 2018 I mean...if it's spontaneous and hot and you just can't keep your hands off each other, I suppose it's not that bad. But if he is doing this in lieu of taking you on a proper date, then no, not good. 1
Zahara Posted November 7, 2018 Posted November 7, 2018 (edited) It’s not bad if you both like sex and spontaneity. Based on your other threads about this slimeball — he just wanted sex and was willing to drive out at 11pm to get it. Edited November 7, 2018 by Zahara 3
elaine567 Posted November 7, 2018 Posted November 7, 2018 Based on your other threads about this slimeball — he just wanted sex and was willing to drive out at 11pm to get it. ^^^^^ this ^^^^^ Unfortunately... 2
d0nnivain Posted November 7, 2018 Posted November 7, 2018 Linaa This guy is a predator & you are too naïve to see it. He doesn't love you. He's using you. This was a classic booty call because he was horny & he knew you'd be available & he wouldn't have to put in much effort, that you'd be willing to give it up in the car because sex is so new for you that you haven't learned to control your raging hormones. If by "normal" you mean that it happens regularly, sure there are rotten people everywhere who routinely take advantage of naïve folks like you. If you mean that it's a good thing, no it's not. 2
Art_Critic Posted November 7, 2018 Posted November 7, 2018 Enjoy the car sex, that is something that goes away as you get older and your life changes.. The last time I had car sex my wife and I were just dating... about 12 years ago... Sooo... it is a good thing....
Simple Logic Posted November 7, 2018 Posted November 7, 2018 Really to answer that question I would kinda need to your age, how many times, and how long you have dated.
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