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So you’re going to stop seeing her because she has a kid? Is that because you’re angry at her or just don’t like the idea of sex with someone’s mom?

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I don't see why should she tell you that.

I am sure you didn't share all your info with her, I am sure there are many things you hid from her.

She probably did the right thing, I can see you running away because of the kid and using the excuse she hid this info so I can't trust her anymore.

 

She is still the same person you liked before but now she has a kid.

 

 

This is the exact reason why she does not say she has a kid, because guys run away from single mothers.

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So you’re going to stop seeing her because she has a kid? Is that because you’re angry at her or just don’t like the idea of sex with someone’s mom?

 

I'll be friends. I just think it's wrong to not share that information. A kid is a big deal.

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I'll be friends. I just think it's wrong to not share that information. A kid is a big deal.

 

But she did??? :confused::confused:

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I'll be friends. I just think it's wrong to not share that information. A kid is a big deal.

 

Dateme, you've just done yet another about face. First it was that she should have told you. Then it was that she shouldn't have told you. Now you're back to saying that she should have told you. (Which she just did)

 

Also, she may not want to be your friend if this flip-flopping in thought process is your normal.

 

Do you have any psychological issues which need addressing?

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No guy wants to take care of another guys/girls kid. What man should invest money in another alpha males offspring. Women on this post can't understand this idea simply because they are not keen and think about themselves more than the guy they are getting involved with and how he feels about things.

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Dateme, you've just done yet another about face. First it was that she should have told you. Then it was that she shouldn't have told you. Now you're back to saying that she should have told you. (Which she just did)

 

Also, she may not want to be your friend if this flip-flopping in thought process is your normal.

 

Do you have any psychological issues which need addressing?

 

I felt is she was going to tell me then share from the start. I felt there was no reason to then tell me now. And the fact that she's hiding a kid gets to me. I'm clear.

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She should have kept it to herself. We're fwb. Why does anyone need to know she has a child?

I really hope I'm confused. It sure sounds like all you want is sex, and you're getting it, but knowing the woman is a mother ruins it for you. Please tell me this is not the case.

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No guy wants to take care of another guys/girls kid. What man should invest money in another alpha males offspring. Women on this post can't understand this idea simply because they are not keen and think about themselves more than the guy they are getting involved with and how he feels about things.

 

Larry.. this is a pretty rude post and nothing close to being the truth.

I've been a Step Dad before just like 100's of MILLIONS of other Men in this world, while not all of those guys maybe didn't want to take care of another guys offspring I can tell you I did and was glad I was there for her, today she is almost 27 years old and a beautiful wonderful young lady and I was part of that.. my emotional support as well as financial support while I was married to her Mom is part of the reason she is who she is today...

 

If a man is so eff'd up to believe you to be true then I can't believe they would have enough love in their hearts for their own offspring let alone for themselves..

 

Seriously dude...

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I really hope I'm confused. It sure sounds like all you want is sex, and you're getting it, but knowing the woman is a mother ruins it for you. Please tell me this is not the case.

 

Hmmm. I just wouldn't want to progress past this.

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No guy wants to take care of another guys/girls kid. What man should invest money in another alpha males offspring. Women on this post can't understand this idea simply because they are not keen and think about themselves more than the guy they are getting involved with and how he feels about things.

 

What a strange post, millions of men step up to become step fathers as do women to other men children. The older you get, the more likely the other person will have had kids.

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I felt is she was going to tell me then share from the start. I felt there was no reason to then tell me now. And the fact that she's hiding a kid gets to me. I'm clear.

 

Sounds to me like you spent little in the way of getting to know her and are now upset because you found out something surprising. Had you taken the time to get to know her as a person, this would have come out already.

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Sounds to me like you spent little in the way of getting to know her and are now upset because you found out something surprising. Had you taken the time to get to know her as a person, this would have come out already.

 

I thought I was. Not sure why you have to know someone to get told they have a kid.

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What a strange post, millions of men step up to become step fathers as do women to other men children. The older you get, the more likely the other person will have had kids.

 

I get older. They stay the same age.

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No harm no foul. We'll be long distance friends.

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Since you guys talked for that amount of time, your instincts are right that something is off about her not telling you. It’s a lie by omission.

 

Right. It's a lie.

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