LostandConfuse Posted November 7, 2018 Posted November 7, 2018 I am a 25 year old female and he is a 25 year old male, I was dumped a week ago by my boyfriend we did have a bad few months, i am really struggling and still in contact with him he sent me this message tonight after i messaged him he sent me this " i do want to be with you i do love you and i do miss you but we just don't work at all, this is 1 of the hardest choices av had to make but I no am doing the right thing for the both of us to go and try find ourselves and try enjoy our life, i am really struggling at the minute being in this house I do not want to be in this house I hate it now but I will try and get over this depression and sort my self out I have went from having it all to nothing it's horrible but it is life" Why is he doing this to me and ua if he really does feel this way. I want to be with him. I don't know what to do, can anyone help? I just can't let go of hope that we will get back together again and it ia the only thing that keeps me going then i speak to him and reality hits me. Do you think if i give him time and space we will get back together? I'm so lost.
Author LostandConfuse Posted November 7, 2018 Author Posted November 7, 2018 He also sent me this 2 days ago. Listen am sorry for the way things have happend to us I promise u I really am I no how much u have done for me and all the little things ok I will never forget trust me am sorry ok
Highndry Posted November 10, 2018 Posted November 10, 2018 He's saying those things to assuage his own guilt and to let you down easy. Cut off all contact and start healing. 1
Chassit Posted November 10, 2018 Posted November 10, 2018 He's saying those things to assuage his own guilt and to let you down easy. Cut off all contact and start healing. I agree with this, I am sorry you are hurting. 1
GinON Posted November 11, 2018 Posted November 11, 2018 I will third the motion, do yourself a favor and move on with your life. It sucks but it will be better sooner if you do.
basil67 Posted November 11, 2018 Posted November 11, 2018 You say that there was a bad few months. How many years was your relationship solid for before it went downhill?
Author LostandConfuse Posted November 12, 2018 Author Posted November 12, 2018 He admitted that he doesn't feel the same about me anymore he said "It is just not there" I should have listened to the signs when it started going downhill a few months ago he with draw from me became distant and physical affection was sonthing from the past. He sent me a text roughly saying "Take care and you never know we might be together in the future maybe" that was 4 days ago i have not messaged back to that and cut off contact since. My realtionship was solid for about two years before it went downhill.
MrsXXX Posted November 12, 2018 Posted November 12, 2018 Stay no contact! I recently broke no contact and can see what a safe space NC really is. If he wants you let him chase you. NC is better as you control it. I’m old and silly and have learnt my lessons in a painful way. Take care xx
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