aklost101 Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 so i'm trying to stop seeing MM... when i keep myself from seeing him i get angry and snippy with everyone around me; it's like he's a drug, and i'm experiencing withdrawl.
whichwayisup Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 Handle it like any other habit then...Cuz that is what he's become. A bad habit. Not healthy for you at all! Keep busy and DO things for you. Spend time on things you enjoy in life, hang with friends, see your family, pamper yourself - do a spa day with a girlfriend or a sister if you have one. When he creeps into your mind, STOP yourself. Think of it like quitting smoking..The more you think of it, the more you want it. I know as I'm trying to quit smoking. One of things with the no smoking is changing your routine. Do the opposite of what you usually do when with MM or thinking about him. There will be certain times of the day you miss him most or want to talk to him...Those are the times you change your habits. Like now I try my best not to have a smoke with my coffee. Getting out of the habit. I'm sure this is going to be rough on you but I have faith you can do this! Be strong and DO that bad list about him. All the bad things and feelings he's done and made you feel like. Everytime you get the urge to see/talk to him, read that list and hopefully reading it will put you off and make you feel strong! Just know you're better off without him, no matter how much it hurts now - The pain will be less and less as time goes on. The less time you think and care about him the more your heart and mind will heal and get over him. Keep posting!
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 I'll add to that: Irritable with what you do have. Aching sadness of a deep sort. Helplessness at the inability to change the situation. Anger at one's self for being a slave to emotion. Guilt for how you feel, and anger over feeling guilty, and resentment toward anyone thinking you should feel guilty. Brief periods of relief, followed by a "low" equal to how much relief you felt. Irrational and illogical thinking. Sleepy all the time. Sleeping when possible. Propensity to abuse substances, or get obsessively involved in an addictive activity. Draining... draining... thinking that happiness is taking a permanent leave, and staying would do no better to make happiness stay. Feelings of wanting to crawl the walls with anxiety. ... and so on.
curly Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 You truly are the most insightful - concise poster here on this forum. How do you know so well? Can you post a link to your story? You truly speak to the heart of me.... I need your voice in my head at all times when I'm trying to break free of MM. Please keep posting. Your words are inspiring!
Author aklost101 Posted September 12, 2005 Author Posted September 12, 2005 actually LB what you described was me, generally, not just now. LOL thanks, kids, for the well-wishes. i'll do my best. i'm sure i'll backslide a lot... especially b/c i can't actually say "________ these are the reasons why i don't want to see him."
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