Lady Marian Posted November 6, 2018 Posted November 6, 2018 I have this guy friend who was introduced to me by a common friend a year ago. There were sparks whenever we meet up occasionally because he is quite touchy feely in an uncreepy way. He also goes hot and cold; sometimes he is warm and friendly and other times he is busy and incomunicado. He is single and had gone through a bad breakup (as told by his friend but never gone to the specifics). This guy is also guarded and quite shy; does not really talk about personal stuff esp to what happened with his ex gf. What confused me though is that this guy looks at my social media everyday since May of this yr. i have close guy friends but they never look at my instagram stories everyday. Should i put much meaning into this?
sabaton Posted November 6, 2018 Posted November 6, 2018 I have this guy friend who was introduced to me by a common friend a year ago. There were sparks whenever we meet up occasionally because he is quite touchy feely in an uncreepy way. He also goes hot and cold; sometimes he is warm and friendly and other times he is busy and incomunicado. He is single and had gone through a bad breakup (as told by his friend but never gone to the specifics). This guy is also guarded and quite shy; does not really talk about personal stuff esp to what happened with his ex gf. What confused me though is that this guy looks at my social media everyday since May of this yr. i have close guy friends but they never look at my instagram stories everyday. Should i put much meaning into this? He thinks you are hot. Ask him out on a date.
d0nnivain Posted November 6, 2018 Posted November 6, 2018 No you should not put much meaning into him looking at your social media every day. Are you really that interesting that you update so often. It is a sign of some interest. You can take the bully by the horns & ask him out if you like. You can be more passive about it & ramp up your flirting to see what he does. Maybe he needs a brighter green light from you so that if he is brave enough to ask he knows you will accept.
smackie9 Posted November 6, 2018 Posted November 6, 2018 You want a man to be a man...why are you wasting your time with this dud of a dude that starts waffling when things get hot. NEXT!
PRW Posted November 6, 2018 Posted November 6, 2018 Does he like me?...is the wrong question. He sounds effeminate and emotionally volatile. It doesn't matter if it seems creepy or not, that is subjective. The question is can he handle a relationship? I doubt it. Too bad you can't hear his ex GF's side of the story. Don't get me wrong, I try to help guys like this when I can, but it is usually in vain. Besides, he didn't come here, you did, so all I can do is talk to you,...and you can't fix him. Look for a man who comes across as solid, centered, and masculine. A guy being "touchy-feely" is just never a good thing in my book, sorry. Anyone can be "hot & cold", it just depends on what is currently going on in their life,...I'm not worried about that one too much. The "bad break up"? Everyone has got one of those somewhere. If someone can't have a normal life after a break up then that is a big red flag all by itself. The best cure for losing a GF is to find a new one, but if the breakup is an "excuse to fail" at finding a new one, how useful is that? Him not talking about it [to you] is no worry, you don't want to become his therapist. Guarded and shy translates into insecure & dependent,...as someone who can't take the lead on anything, they need to have someone to follow and help make decisions and plans for them. The social media thing just shows he may have a bit of interest, while at the same time showing that he is not able to act on his interests.
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