Radarsat Posted November 5, 2018 Posted November 5, 2018 Hi guys, Been dating my girlfriend for almost a year (anniversary in a couple of weeks) and things have been pretty darn good. We had a small rough patch where I became very jealous and she was extremely naive about a guy friend and his intentions, but that has been taken care of and she no longer communicates with him. However, before we dated, she had lived with her ex-boyfriend for approximately 3 years. She left him because he cheated. But he still states on his facebook that he's in a relationship and tells the locals that he is just on a break from her. She hasn't communicated with him with the exception of trying to address a vehicle issue (she had his car in her name) and it's been hell trying to get him to address that issue. But she has always showed me the messages and told me everything. When it does come up, there is a lot of negative words spoken about him and it seems obvious (to me) that she can't stand him. This morning she tells me that it was a weird sleep in that she had a dream that she went to a party at his house (and he doesn't even live in a house) and all of her friends were there but she went by one room and noticed inside that there was a photo shrine of her and his/her kids as a family. She thought it was odd and even said to him in the dream, "WTF?". Is it just a dream? Or do I need to be worried here? We are talking of moving in together. She had messaged him just the night before asking for money regarding the vehicle, so maybe that's why he was in her thoughts?
Gretchen12 Posted November 5, 2018 Posted November 5, 2018 This was a nightmare. It probably means she feels he's so uncooperative that she'll never get rid of him. He caused her stress. Actually, if she hadn't told you, the dream will be forgotten in a few days. How many dreams that you remembered upon first waking do you still remember now? 1
Author Radarsat Posted November 5, 2018 Author Posted November 5, 2018 This was a nightmare. It probably means she feels he's so uncooperative that she'll never get rid of him. He caused her stress. Actually, if she hadn't told you, the dream will be forgotten in a few days. How many dreams that you remembered upon first waking do you still remember now? I would agree with the stress part and have a hard time believing she would miss him. This is the same dude that held her son up in the air by the neck and verbally abused him and her daughter. Then cheats. It was just an odd dream, but she told me about it at least. She has always been an open book from what I gather. Lots she didn't have to share. Thank you Gretchen12, just needed some other perspective. I'm sure there is nothing to worry about. And you're right, I rarely remember ANY dreams. She couldn't even recall the whole dream.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 5, 2018 Posted November 5, 2018 You are really over-reacting, OP. It's just a dream. 1
Author Radarsat Posted November 5, 2018 Author Posted November 5, 2018 You are really over-reacting, OP. It's just a dream. I know. I'm working on it. Not only do I over-react, but I over think HUGE. I am currently getting professional therapy on this, but it's not a quick fix. You are right though.
Lotsgoingon Posted November 6, 2018 Posted November 6, 2018 I think it's great that this raised a flag for you ... But yes, I agree with the others ... Your gf's nightmare is that this guy won't let go of her and move on. 1
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