Diesel Posted September 11, 2005 Posted September 11, 2005 Hello I hope everyone is doing great. I have known this girl for 4 years. For three years we were studying in a same school , same grade.Things were so great,we used to meet everyday in our classrood , talk alot and fun. We are in a serious relationship and would do anything to get together .. We have now changed our schools . shes in a different school and i'm in a different school . she lives too far away from me.I cant and go meet her everytime. So we have decided to talk on the phone once a week. We talked on the phone once a week. For the first 2 months it was ok for me but now i'm really getting worried about her. i have no idea what she does and all that though i have very much trust in her. she calls me once a week and we talk. the only thing i would like to know is. 1 - Is this really neccessary to be together all time? 2- we talk once a week do u think that's ok for our relationship? Also this is needless to say. when i talk with her once a week , i talk to her like im talking to a stranger so i have nothing special to talk about we just have 20 minutes and in those 20 minutes i dont wanna talk about movies.music and all that. i actually want those 20 minutes to be memorable. so what are the things to talk about that will make the convo memorable?
bluechocolate Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 So we have decided to talk on the phone once a week. * Why only once a week & why for only 20 minutes? Is this a money and/or time issue? I have known this girl for 4 years. For three years we were studying in a same school , same grade Very few relationships, more so high-school ones, can withstand this kind of separation. I think you should both be friends, but make yourselves available to other men/women. You're too young to be putting all of your eggs in one basket, especially when that basket is young, relatively inexperienced and living miles & miles away.
Author Diesel Posted September 12, 2005 Author Posted September 12, 2005 So we have decided to talk on the phone once a week. * Why only once a week & why for only 20 minutes? Is this a money and/or time issue? I have known this girl for 4 years. For three years we were studying in a same school , same grade Very few relationships, more so high-school ones, can withstand this kind of separation. I think you should both be friends, but make yourselves available to other men/women. You're too young to be putting all of your eggs in one basket, especially when that basket is young, relatively inexperienced and living miles & miles away. Becouse her family doesnt allow her to talk on the phone for more than 20 minutes. she has strick parents.
bluechocolate Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 Because her family doesn't allow her to talk on the phone for more than 20 minutes. she has strict parents. So you have distance AND her parents conspiring against this relationship - I don't see how you can keep up any kind of relationship which is restricted to only 20 minutes of phone conversation per week. Good luck.
Leikela Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 Yeah, I agree with Blue Chocolate. A relationship where you don't see the person at all and only talk to them once a week for 20 minutes is sadly NOT a relationship. You can't bond with someone you talk to for only 20 minutes a week. I would give it a rest and just be friends. With this pattern of communication, you're only headed for disaster. Save yourself now while you can.
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