Ex contacted me....what does it mean?

[bmbelle]

I dated my ex for 5.5 months. It was a fairly serious relationship where we talked about marriage and then things went sour after that talk. 3 weeks after the "talk" we broke up. In hindsight, I felt like it was a good decision to end the relationship. We both felt there was someone else out there better suited for each of us.

 

It's been 2.5 weeks since we broke up. The break up was fairly mutual. However, I would have tried to work on things if he'd wanted to. Anyway, we ended the relationship, returned each other's stuff that we had at our places, and said "see ya around". It was very hard to get over him and it took 2 weeks to the day before I could wake up in the morning and he wasn't the first thing on my mind. Well, i was having a great day until he emailed me that same day (2 weeks to the day) of our breakup. He appeared to be checking to see how I was doing.

 

My question is, why contact someone only 2 weeks after a breakup? Isn't it an unspoken rule to give each other time and space to get over the relationship and move on? I'd think 2-3 months down the road would be a more reasonable time to contact an ex, but not 2 weeks??!! I'd just planned to be friendly if I saw him in public, but I hadn't intended on ever checking on him to see how he's doing. After I got his email, I emailed him asking what his intentions were for contacting me - was he just checking up on me or was there another reason? I have not heard back from him. So, guys out there, what does it mean when a guy does that? Is he just thinking about me and wanted to contact me and it means nothing? or is he having second thoughts? I've talked to friends and they seem to be split down the middle as far as what they think his intentions were. Some feel that he could have contacted me b/c he missed me, but he has no intentions of working things out. The other half thinks that he probably realized he's screwed up and lost out on a great girl. Anyone have any advice?

[gofishn]

Hard to say w/o all the details but here's what I think: he thought 2-3 weeks was enough time before trying to contact you. You basically asked him "why are you contacting me so soon" and he got scared of being smothering and backed off. But here is the key, he did contact you and if you were talking about marriage it's probably ok to give him a call and ask how his football team did last weekend.

[Chigirl]

He ended up emailing me a couple days ago. He said he was just checking up on me. So, I guess guys do that, huh? I don't understand the concept. Why not just leave things alone and move on. I guess he's moved on and expects that I should have also. That's where guys and girls differ.

[Drivetildriven]

He probably hasn't found anything "better" yet and is finding the single life more difficult than he thought. Don't take him back, at least not for a while. He'll leave you as soon as someone else catches his eye.