Alwayscats Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 I’ve been with my new guy just over a month and he is really nice although... We have only had sex once and he struggled to get it up so I have lost all my self confidence and feel like crap so I don’t bother making love or even trying to. All I can think about is my ex and how we had a really good connection in bed and it felt amazing and how much he made me feel sexy... This guy is not the smartest and gets mixed up and gets confused and doesn’t remember anything and also he’s in over 38 grand worth of debt and I’m not sure I want to take debt on as he’s asking to move in and have a baby with me but I don’t want any of that not yet anyway. I feel really depressed about it all and not sure what to do...
d0nnivain Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 You aren't over your EX. This new guy has baggage you don't want to deal with. It's a new relationship -- one month. So if it's already not working for you just end it. Understand his ED is a medical condition; it's not about how attractive you are. You could be a super model & she still would be unable to perform.
Zahara Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 You’ve only known him for a month and he wants to have a baby and have you move in? I’m not sure why that’s not coming up as a huge red flags for you. And the fact that you’re already depressed with the whole situation after a month — you know the answer. Don’t settle just because you need to have someone on your life. 1
Lotsgoingon Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 You start off focusing on his problems with sex. But the more you write, the more it becomes clear that his sex issue is the least of the red flags ... run ... move in ..baby. Are you kidding? Run ... now! Why even mention the sex?
Redhead14 Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 I’m not sure I want to take debt on as he’s asking to move in and have a baby with me -- After only a month???? To me, he sounds like he's parasite looking for someone to "help" him with his debt problems and throwing in the idea of a baby to reel you in cuz that what girls want -- a relationship, a family, etc. There's something wrong with this picture. I feel really depressed about it all --This "relationship" doesn't deserve to have this kind of power over you. It's only been a month! Being depressed about this guy isn't about this guy . . . it's just about the idea/dream you thought you might realize with him and that's out the window.
smackie9 Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 Forget about the ex, and forget about this guy...come on now how desperate can you be? You have to stick with your expectations in order to find the right guy to invest in...and this guy ain't it.
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