HazeMan Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 Girlfriend of 2 years left me but got upset when I told her I wanted to cut contact. Now she is playing the victim. My girlfriend and I just broke up for good about 3 weeks ago. She dumped me first on September 5th only to call me crying the next day saying she overreacted and we should be together since we love each other. I gave her another shot as long she put in effort. After a month, I talked to her and said things had been feeling one sided and it seemed she wasn't trying. She said she didn't want to anymore. She then said that she had gotten all she could from the relationship, she liked being single and didn't want to be held back since she had kickstarted her career. Told me a bunch of nonsense like her seeing me in her future but I'm not the one she ends up with and she wants to live her life without worrying about making time for me yet wants to remain friends. 3 days after we broke up the second time, I met and told her I wanted to cut contact because it was too painful to be around her. She got very upset and defensive and proceeded to throw everything she did for me in my face because I had financial problems which plagued most of our relationship. She usually did that during the relationship. She always reminded me of the things she did for me and how she helped me. Her mother always got upset with her for doing that. She just gave excuses for dumping me like how I didn't have a job longer than 7 months, I had financial problems and how we fell into routine and didn't go out and have fun or explore new places. The thing is, she was so overworked that whenever we met up, she was too tired and always said she just wanted to go home. I didn't mind as long as I spent time with her. She then went on about how I took her for granted and never listened to her advice which is entirely untrue. Everything she said was not true and even she knew it. I told her to look me in the eye and tell me she believed all she just said to me and couldn't. She even tried to use pet peeves as a reason for dumping me and I old her I had pet peeves about her too but I shrugged and saw it as part of the package I told her when you date someone, you get the good and the bad. She said was angry and disgusted that I'm making her out to be the bad guy. She said she knows she is the bitch to everyone because she broke my heart twice but she had been with me from the beginning. She then said i didn't care about her and i should go. After this I left her there but had a panic attack when I got home and texted her apologising and said we shouldn't do no contact if she didn't want to. She replied saying that she needs time. 4 days later I text her again while depressed and said I missed her. She got upset and said I don't get to do that and that I hurt her badly and that she needs time. My head clears and I remember that I'm the one who got dumped and hurt so I remove her from social media since I couldn't stop obsessing and all it did was hurt me to see her. Found out a few days later she joined tinder sometime after our last meeting. She's been acting cold and mean since then and she recently texted to pick a fight about being kogged in to her Netflix which she insisted I use during the relationship. I asked her why she was acting like we were enemies but then didnt wait for a repky because I decided not to deal with that and blocked her number. I didn't even throw any of the things I did for her back in her face, like how she was suicidal last year because she had no friends and didn't have a career ambition. No one knew. Not even her parents. I helped her and sacrificed even my social life to make sure she was ok. Now she is going to the gym, losing weight and making money and she said she wants to see what is out there. That she is young and misses making out with hot guys at bars yet she wanted to be friends. Her friends at work had also been saying she should dump me. She said so many horrible things to me. "I see you in my future but you're not the one I end up with", "I have gotten all I can from this relationship", "I want to live my life without thinking about making time for you", "I want to be single and have fun", "I feel like I have so many opportunities now and I don't want to be held back". The thing is, I am international student while her family are 6 year immigrants. I'm here all alone with no one and my country went into recession which caused my financial problems. She said she wanted the traditional life. House and kids with me but as time went by she said the picture started getting blurry which occurred after I helped her out of her depression. Now she is saying she wants to travel and meet other guys because she felt trapped by how committed I was. She felt pressured by her friends and family because everyone especially the females kept telling her to hold on to me and that she is lucky to have found a good guy that is so committed. Now she is angry because her so called friends at work that she listened to and wants to go partying and travelling with are not close to her. I was her only real friend. Her Best friend. I keep hearing that she is miserable and angry because she has no one and partying and drinking is lonely. It sucks because our families knew about each other and love each other. Her mum won't stop worrying about me. She always felt overshadowed by me even amongst her own family and friends because I got along great with everyone and they always expected me to tag along when she sees them even though she always insisted I come along. I'm trying to move on. I've been going to the gym, eating better and my friends keep offering me girls to forget her but her picking fights with me is annoying. She said she got bored because I was always around and didn't have much if a social life outside of her yet she hated my friends and didn't want me hanging out with them. Plus, when I was more social, girls always approached me and hung around me. After I stopped to help her through depression, it didn't happen as often so I became less attractive to her. Now I'm getting back out there, she is getting upset. Her mum still wants to keep in touch but I'm worried my ex will have even more reason to pick fights now. p.s. Sad thing is, she had tried this outgoing and carefree lifestyle before but she said it felt empty and was used for sex. The fact she is going back now is baffling and angering everyone. Some even suspect she may have cheated or has someone else lined up. I just want peace not stress.
sutsie Posted November 4, 2018 Posted November 4, 2018 Just read this story. You're much better off. I couldn't spend the rest of my life with someone. I love Trump don't get me wrong, but I don't wanna date someone like him that's always expecting thank you's and praise for things they did to help others. Defeats the purpose. Hang in there and you're gonna find someone a lot better trust me.
Author HazeMan Posted November 7, 2018 Author Posted November 7, 2018 Just read this story. You're much better off. I couldn't spend the rest of my life with someone. I love Trump don't get me wrong, but I don't wanna date someone like him that's always expecting thank you's and praise for things they did to help others. Defeats the purpose. Hang in there and you're gonna find someone a lot better trust me. Yeah. She did that the whole relationship. I brushed it off because most things just slide off me. For example, We were walking outside during early winter last year and my scarf came loose. She fussed and said I should wrap up before I caught a cold. I laughed and joked "I'm a man. Men dont get cold". She replied "Then take off the scarf that i bought for you, and he hoodie and the toque". She always made comments like that and her mom has reprimanded her multiple times for it. I talked to her about it and she always acted hurt and said she wa only kidding. My money problems won't last for much longer though. Just got a new job along with some other things lined up. I've just been bummed for a few days now. My emotions are still a rollercoaster and the loneliness hurts a lot but I'm still making progress. I've been reminding myselcthat she left and doesn't care about me anymore. She will forget and move on to some other guy, if she hasn't already. It's better to kill any hope and have her come crawling back than to wallow in misery and she her enjoy life.
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