d0nnivain Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 (edited) If you want to reconcile reach out. If you are content staying broken up maintain NC. Understand that if she does want reconciliation, you contacting her will only set back your healing when you are rejected all over again. In the other thread you said she broke up with you & that you left the door open for her to contact you if she wants to get back together. You contacting her now won't change things. She doesn't want to be with you no matter how much you want her back. Reach out at your own peril. You are only going to get the door slammed on your heart one more time but maybe that is what you need to fully let go. Edited October 31, 2018 by d0nnivain 1
Author virajdx Posted November 2, 2018 Author Posted November 2, 2018 I guess she actually instantly moved on. this is my story: https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/666149-30-days-60-days-nc-forever I tried 60 day nc but never contacted her instantly after breakup and she not contacting me gave me a clear signal of her 0 percent interest level in me. Now after 2 months i really want to move on and get over her. I can have a good life ahead just if i get over this. Help me pls!!!
d0nnivain Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 Heling takes time. First step is to acknowledge that it's over. You only recently did that. So while the formal break up may have happened 2 months ago; you kept holding out hope thinking that your birthday would be magical & she'd return. Stop looking at the calendar. It's not a good measure because the real healing starts now. Couple of basics: 1. Mourn. Do have a good cry or scream. Be sad for the loss of something precious to you but let it all out. 2. Purge. Take everything she gave you, all the mementos, the reminders, the keepsakes & get rid of them. If you can't bear to throw them out, including the birthday present, box them all up. Take every photo down. If you can't delete, save to a memory stick. Put it in the box too. Now tape the box shut . . . I mean really tape it, use way too much tape make it a genuine p.i.t.a. to reopen. Store the box in a deep corner or the attic or garage, preferably at your parents house. A deep closet works too but it's an out of sight out of mind thing. 3. Re-arrange your living space. Move that chair. Swap the art around. Make it different so you can no longer have a clear vision of her in your space. Reclaim it as yours. 4. Surround yourself with supportive family & friends. Do not wallow alone. 5. Disconnect. Delete her profiles & her # from your phone etc. This way you won't be tempted to drunk dial or reach out. 6. Move. Now is the time to start exercising. Endorphins elevate your mood. Join a gym. Take up a sport, Get re-invested in your favorite hobby, particularly something you gave up to spend more time with her.
William Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 Moderation merged three threads on this breakup topic so there may be some duplication or overlap in content. Please continue!
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