Stopme Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 I have known this man for a couple of years. We dated and then it became friends with benefits on and off. He always said he didn't want a relationship but I developed feelings for him so we went our separate ways because I wanted more. However, we did have great sexual chemistry. I hadn't communicated with him for around ten months. A month ago he reconnected with me. I thought maybe he was now ready for a relationship. The communication was texting, it started with good morning texts but escalated to 'sexting'. He then attempted a booty call which I rejected. There has not been any other attempts to actually see each other. I got angry and told him he has no respect and that I didn't appreciate him using me for his own sexual exploits. He's now blocked me from all communication, which is a good thing. I'm really angry, at myself mainly because I should not have answered his text. This hasn't been good for me as I did have feelings for him and this has unsettled me. . Does anyone know where I'm coming from. I have anxiety and this has really upset me. I'm never speaking to him again.
alphamale Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 he wants you to be his FWB again. go into full NC for the rest of time. find another guy who you can have a proper relationship with 1
MountainGirl111 Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 Some guys are like this. No booty call, no relationship at all. They're in it for sex. Sorry you're feeling this way. 1
BaileyB Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 Well, clearly it wasn’t respectful to you because you ended your relationship when you developed feelings that were not returned. But really, sex was the basis of your previous relationship. He was hoping that you would be interested in rekindling your FWB relationship... you want something different so you refused. He will move on and find another girl who wants no strings attached sex. Life goes on...
preraph Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 This is why I don't like guys who try to sext. He shouldn't every contact you knowing that you were wanting more of a relationship to begin with. because you coat for that you gave him a chance and then he just acted like the same jerk he always was. But at least now you can be mad and move on. And when a guy seems to be leading up to sexting, tell him you don't sext. and beware because they will try to talk you into it by acting like it's just to tide them over until there with you which is complete BS. Tell them there's only one way to find out if you talk dirty or not. 1
smackie9 Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 I have known this man for a couple of years. We dated and then it became friends with benefits on and off. He always said he didn't want a relationship but I developed feelings for him so we went our separate ways because I wanted more. However, we did have great sexual chemistry. I hadn't communicated with him for around ten months. A month ago he reconnected with me. I thought maybe he was now ready for a relationship. The communication was texting, it started with good morning texts but escalated to 'sexting'. He then attempted a booty call which I rejected. There has not been any other attempts to actually see each other. I got angry and told him he has no respect and that I didn't appreciate him using me for his own sexual exploits. He's now blocked me from all communication, which is a good thing. I'm really angry, at myself mainly because I should not have answered his text. This hasn't been good for me as I did have feelings for him and this has unsettled me. . Does anyone know where I'm coming from. I have anxiety and this has really upset me. I'm never speaking to him again. You should be excited that you stoop up to him, and took the appropriate action...pat yourself on the back, this is a good thing. 1
Redhead14 Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 I have known this man for a couple of years. We dated and then it became friends with benefits on and off. He always said he didn't want a relationship but I developed feelings for him so we went our separate ways because I wanted more. However, we did have great sexual chemistry. I hadn't communicated with him for around ten months. A month ago he reconnected with me. I thought maybe he was now ready for a relationship. The communication was texting, it started with good morning texts but escalated to 'sexting'. He then attempted a booty call which I rejected. There has not been any other attempts to actually see each other. I got angry and told him he has no respect and that I didn't appreciate him using me for his own sexual exploits. He's now blocked me from all communication, which is a good thing. I'm really angry, at myself mainly because I should not have answered his text. This hasn't been good for me as I did have feelings for him and this has unsettled me. . Does anyone know where I'm coming from. I have anxiety and this has really upset me. I'm never speaking to him again. I have anxiety and this has really upset me. -- I say this often on these boards -- this guy/this "relationship" doesn't deserve to have this kind of power over you. I got angry and told him he has no respect and that I didn't appreciate him using me for his own sexual exploits. -- He didn't use you. You didn't allow that to happen. Take "pride" in that. You're stronger and than you realize. It's done. Leave it in the past and focus on the good stuff now and to come . . . you've learned something and you have insight. That's a good thing.
elaine567 Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 There was a study a while ago about people who keep contact with their exes. It found women mostly keep in contact for friendship, men mostly keep in contact for potential sex... 1
alphamale Posted November 2, 2018 Posted November 2, 2018 There was a study a while ago about people who keep contact with their exes. It found women mostly keep in contact for friendship, men mostly keep in contact for potential sex... that has been my experience but I have never stayed friends with anyone I slept with 1
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