karen67 Posted September 11, 2005 Posted September 11, 2005 It has been almost 2 week's since my LDR ended.I recieved a e-mail from him about 10 day's ago,saying that when we met he never expected to fall for me the way he did.He wanted to take it slow,but he couldn't even do that right.That he wasn't ready to be so close to someone.He said that it isn't me,nothing's wrong and I have done nothing for this to happen.It is his fear of commitment.He continually told me that there isn't anyone else in his life,other then his boy's and his family.That he need's to focus on fixing the relationship's with them,that he messed up so badly in the past.That he has no right to bring anyone else into his life right now under the false pretenses of a future if he isn't sure of it himself.he said he is sorry and he just can't do this right now,and can't tell me when or if he will ever be able to....he told me i truly touched his heart and soul,and never felt anything like this before,he will remember the time we shared dearly.And hopes i find someone that has there head on straight,and gives me the future I deserve,that matches my heart...... I am still in soooo much pain......I love him soooooo much and miss him more everyday.I have resisted calling him,or texting... I know he loves me,I seen it and felt it for the first time in my life.....Should i hold true to what i feel in my heart?Or is it just a illusion because i can't face the fact that he is ''just not into me"??? Has anyone seen the movie'' The notebook"? ..... I believe ''If you love someone set them free",I have let him go in a sense,But hold true that we will meet again,in time......and still be just in love as the day he ended it.....HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Merin Posted September 11, 2005 Posted September 11, 2005 Yes we met online... Okay... Well Karen first sorry you're having a rough time I'm going to make some assumptions here and IF I'm wrong then correct me. First... I'm going to assume you never actually met this Guy in real life? The only things you know about him are what he's told you... those facts of his life may or may not be true... often meeting people online especially when the 2 in question live in different states and there is not the real possibility of spending time together in real life it is easy to get wrapped up in a false sense of "Knowing" that other person because people tend to share more about themselves online than they might on a IRL meeting of someone new. There is no way of knowing IF this Guy is married or has a SO that perhaps he lives with... my feeling is (and I'm so sorry) that he more than likely DOES. My take is his SO discovered his online emotional affair he had going on and put a stop to it... I'm not in any way saying that online romances NEVER work out... but especially a LDR when started online IMO is very difficult to work out... as again there is not the luxury of really spending time with that other person, seeing where they live, or who they live with... it is in discovering who that person REALLY is, not just what they tell you. Once again I'm not saying ALL online LD romances end up this way or go this way... but just making assumptions on your situation... My feeling is this Guy was not honest with you to begin with and got caught up in something he really wasn't available for in more ways then one. Hang in there
Author karen67 Posted September 11, 2005 Author Posted September 11, 2005 please read my other posts,the story is all there..........
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