jjbarr19 Posted October 30, 2018 Share Posted October 30, 2018 Kind of interested, but if a girl were to cancel on you, or anyone that you were planning on seeing, would you keep giving them chances? I understand things come up, and she seemed very sincere (like why else would you keep wanting to reschedule and saying sorry) but in a way it's slightly disrespectful to me and my time. She wants to meet on Thursday and lucky for her, i'm free that day too, so i'll let ya'll know if she cancels again Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted October 30, 2018 Share Posted October 30, 2018 Kind of interested, but if a girl were to cancel on you, or anyone that you were planning on seeing, would you keep giving them chances? I understand things come up, and she seemed very sincere (like why else would you keep wanting to reschedule and saying sorry) but in a way it's slightly disrespectful to me and my time. She wants to meet on Thursday and lucky for her, i'm free that day too, so i'll let ya'll know if she cancels again If she cancels again, make it the last time to speak to her. No one who really wants to date is that dang busy 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Normm Posted October 30, 2018 Share Posted October 30, 2018 How much advance notice does she give you? If it's last minute and you don't have time to do something else then it really blows and I wouldn't put up with it for very long. Otherwise live your life, go out with other women and if you happen to get together with her because she doesn't cancel and you don't have anything better to do then great. Link to post Share on other sites
Normm Posted October 30, 2018 Share Posted October 30, 2018 Who knows? Right now he isn't all that important to her, perhaps she's dating around and he's just not a priority. She could be flaky, she could treat every potential dating partner like that. Until she really falls for the guy, at which point she becomes the most dedicated, loyal and committed partner a guy could possibly hope for. He'd lose the opportunity if he followed some of the all or nothing advice on this thread and cuts her off after more than 1 cancelation. Especially if potential dates aren't jumping out of the screen at you. Link to post Share on other sites
lovelymay Posted October 30, 2018 Share Posted October 30, 2018 I reschedule often as well but it doesn't mean I don't like the guy... Since September a guy asked me out a few times but I was literally busy in the whole month of September, then until 21st October and then 5th November. In the meantime I met someone who I'm interested in a bit more than in him, but I haven't lost interest in the guy from September and I'm seeing him this Thursday and Friday! Link to post Share on other sites
PRW Posted October 30, 2018 Share Posted October 30, 2018 Kind of interested, but if a girl were to cancel on you, or anyone that you were planning on seeing, would you keep giving them chances? I understand things come up, and she seemed very sincere (like why else would you keep wanting to reschedule and saying sorry) but in a way it's slightly disrespectful to me and my time. She wants to meet on Thursday and lucky for her, i'm free that day too, so i'll let ya'll know if she cancels again The key would be in the details for me. Their occupation could make keeping a specific date difficult. For example an Emergency Room Doctor/Nurse has no control over what comes through the hospital door five minutes before they are supposed to leave. I work in Information Technology and the same thing can happen to me at any time. It is similar for Police, Firemen, etc. The fact that she keeps rescheduling voluntarily is an important positive point. If she wasn't that into you she just wouldn't even keep trying. If you want to give up on her and go for someone easier that is your choice, but don't blame her for your choice,...it was YOUR choice. Not everyone can control or dodge what life throws at them on a daily basis. Link to post Share on other sites
Lisa_Lisa Posted October 30, 2018 Share Posted October 30, 2018 As long as she is offering another day and is sincerely apologetic, I say go for it. Neither of you knows each other well enough and we can't expect to be treated like prince and princess' until we've actually had a sit down with someone to gauge their interest and what they're looking for in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
bathtub-row Posted October 30, 2018 Share Posted October 30, 2018 As long as she gives you advance notice of the cancellation and has a good reason for it, I’d give her the benefit of the doubt. She may have a job that makes her schedule unpredictable. Link to post Share on other sites
Gretchen12 Posted October 30, 2018 Share Posted October 30, 2018 I wouldn't continue, but not because I think the person is not interested. No, that's not my reasoning at all. I just don't want a boyfriend or husband that cancels on me all the time. These things only get worse, not better. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 Sometimes when a woman cancels and asks you if you can reschedule, she's trying to gently tell you that she's not interested without hurting your feelings. On the flip side, being apologetic is nice. But, some people have mastered the art of seeming apologetic and use that as a manipulation tool. If she canceled on you last minute, and as long as she's not an on-call brain surgeon, then there's no excuse for her doing what she's doing. I'd bet you dollars to donuts that she's multi-dating and trying to fit as many guys into her 'busy' schedule as possible. You say three times? That doesn't sound right, or fair to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Malin889 Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 You should have said you weren’t free on Thursday and suggested another day. By showing that you were free shows her that you are very available. If she cancels again, don’t even reply to her text. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 TBH I wouldn't bother. I, myself, have an expectation of availability. First impressions count! Now some may say lack of interest, but I say they may lack the ability to organize their time. That's a deal breaker in my books. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
doyathinkso Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 Sure go see her on Thursday if you are a glutton for punishment. This will be only be the beginning. Lots more in store for you in the future. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 TBH I wouldn't bother. I, myself, have an expectation of availability. First impressions count! Now some may say lack of interest, but I say they may lack the ability to organize their time. That's a deal breaker in my books. Yeah, as well as he is positioning himself to be a door mat, hard to get out of it once it starts. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
WomenWubber Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 Everytime someone cancelled on me, I would be less available to them in the future regardless of whatever excuse they throw at me. Since it's just dating, people are not going to make you a priority. That's pretty much a given but it goes both ways too. You can pull away from her and invest on other dates as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Malin889 Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 The only, only thing I can think of that is ok to cancel is if they have a kid and all of a sudden childcare falls through. It happened to me last minute and I felt horrible about canceling. Link to post Share on other sites
Mystyry Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 The only, only thing I can think of that is ok to cancel is if they have a kid and all of a sudden childcare falls through. It happened to me last minute and I felt horrible about canceling. Completely see and agree with you that’s a valid reason for canceling. But with all due respect, there are many other examples that are valid: last minute work assignment, last minute business trip as a couple examples. Both actually happened to me and as my job, and my success doing it, are very important to me, I have canceled on commitments due to those reasons. IMO everyone is going to have their own take on it, with their own “only, only” reasons. The true part is that whetever the reason, the OP is secondary to it and it is something for him to think about. Personally, I would not accept a third reschedule and simply let her know that it seems she is busy, maybe down the line you can connect when her schedule is more open. Link to post Share on other sites
sabaton Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 Kind of interested, but if a girl were to cancel on you, or anyone that you were planning on seeing, would you keep giving them chances? I understand things come up, and she seemed very sincere (like why else would you keep wanting to reschedule and saying sorry) but in a way it's slightly disrespectful to me and my time. She wants to meet on Thursday and lucky for her, i'm free that day too, so i'll let ya'll know if she cancels again If she keeps reschedueling she either is hella busy, is going on dates with guys she's more interested in, or she's a flake.. I wouldn't pursue this gal. Link to post Share on other sites
David33 Posted November 1, 2018 Share Posted November 1, 2018 Tell her when she gets to the meeting place, call you and you'll head out. Spoiler alert, don't expect a call. GL 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted November 1, 2018 Share Posted November 1, 2018 Cancelling once should be for unforeseen circumstances that you can excuse, so rain check it. If they cancel on the rain check, then you're done. So one shot, if they don't follow up on the 2nd chance, they're done. Link to post Share on other sites
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