cosis Posted September 11, 2005 Posted September 11, 2005 My ex broke it off about 1 1/2 months ago. Basically she got scared because her divorce was finalizing. Anyway she now lives with her ex but is not happy, yet financially she cannot be on her own with 2 kids. She has been calling/emailing lately basically wanting a 'sexual relationship' because her ex cannnot satisfy those needs. I guess she is just not attracted to him and his 'size' is not fullfilling to her. I am not sure if this is a good idea because I still have some feelings for her. If I end up having just sex I am afraid I will start to really like her again. I am seriously confused because on one hand, yeah I would like to get sex because she is very attractive, yet she is probably the only girl I ever loved at some point and I do not want to start falling for her again. Any advice?
pippen_2k Posted September 11, 2005 Posted September 11, 2005 Well im sure we both know its a bad idea, but most guys wouldnt knock back the sex. My ex came back for a few 1 night stands and I sure as hell didnt say no.. but it did mentally f*** me up cause I got hope that she was gonna come back... and she didnt... Bad Idea = yes, but im 99% sure you will let her come over. lol. Thats just you being a man.
bluechocolate Posted September 11, 2005 Posted September 11, 2005 I am not sure if this is a good idea because I still have some feelings for her. It's a bad idea. You know it is. Yes, it's a bit of hassle free nookie, but you'll also be clinging on in the hope that she'll come back to you. But why would she do that? She's got the ex-ex supporting her & the kiddies & the ex serving up the goods at her beck & call. If you want her back more than you want the sex then the best thing to do right now is stop all contact with her.
Author cosis Posted September 11, 2005 Author Posted September 11, 2005 Yeah although she is saying she just wants a sexual relationship she is throwing other things in aswell. "I miss hanging out and being with you." "Are you dating anyone?" - She try's to get me to tell her I still like her but I never do. I guess maybe I do but I am not going to let her have that power over me. It would be hard to turn down a free piece of ass. Dunno when the time comes what I will do.
Kitteney Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 I cannot believe anyone would even consider this. The fact that she has to live with her exh because she cannot afford to support herself and her two children should be a huge red flag. Why don't you advise her to move back home with her parents or some other family member before you will even begin to think about resuming any kind of relationship with her. And then I would still be a little hesitant. It might also be in your best interest to swing by the courthouse to verify that a divorce has actually been granted.
Author cosis Posted September 12, 2005 Author Posted September 12, 2005 I cannot believe anyone would even consider this. The fact that she has to live with her exh because she cannot afford to support herself and her two children should be a huge red flag. Why don't you advise her to move back home with her parents or some other family member before you will even begin to think about resuming any kind of relationship with her. And then I would still be a little hesitant. It might also be in your best interest to swing by the courthouse to verify that a divorce has actually been granted. Probably right.... she has been calling every other day now making up stuff to talk about. Don't think things are going well at the homefront. It's easy to say now but I do not think I am going to return the next call.
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