Malin889 Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 Ok, so this is not really a problem but I just need advice. I've mentioned my interesting OLD interactions a few times on here. Here is something new: I have been talking to this new guy online, he seems nice, very appropriate, hasn't said anything inappropriate and has been very respectful. We've been messaging regularly over the past week. Now I'm at a spot where I don't have anything to say. I asked him how a party he went to over the weekend was, he answered me telling me it was a really good time, great people, great music, and I didn't know what to say back. This was yesterday. How do you start/continue a conversation with someone when you want to say something, but you don't know what to say? Should I say something funny like, "I'm not sure what else to say, but I do want to continue to chat with you. Do you come here often?" Help!
SunnyWeather Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 It sounds like you are trying too hard and not getting much in return. A general rule with OLD and the beginning stages of texting is if they don't ask questions back or show much interest, it's time to move on. More importantly, in my opinion, texting in the beginning stages should only be done to gauge whether you want to meet up in person and set a meeting date/time/place, and not to have extended conversations asking about each other's days. You're strangers to each other, after all.
kendahke Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 The questions which elicit a longer response are "How" and "Why". Who, what where and when can elicit one word responses. Use more "how" and "why" in your questions. If he said that the music was good, ask him "Why? Who was the band? Have you ever seen them play live? What other music do you like to listen to?.... all that from just one question of "how". 1
Author Malin889 Posted October 29, 2018 Author Posted October 29, 2018 It sounds like you are trying too hard and not getting much in return. A general rule with OLD and the beginning stages of texting is if they don't ask questions back or show much interest, it's time to move on. More importantly, in my opinion, texting in the beginning stages should only be done to gauge whether you want to meet up in person and set a meeting date/time/place, and not to have extended conversations asking about each other's days. You're strangers to each other, after all. We’re not texting, we’re not at that stage yet. We have just been messaging on the site. But yeah he hasn’t been asking too many questions, but he does reply rather quickly. But I’ll just leave it as is since there was really no questions to answer on my part and if he reaches out, great.
Author Malin889 Posted October 29, 2018 Author Posted October 29, 2018 The questions which elicit a longer response are "How" and "Why". Who, what where and when can elicit one word responses. Use more "how" and "why" in your questions. If he said that the music was good, ask him "Why? Who was the band? Have you ever seen them play live? What other music do you like to listen to?.... all that from just one question of "how". That’s very good suggestion thanks! And how simple is that, right? “What kind of music do you like“? such a simple question Lol. 1
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