gl120 Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 My bf broke up with me because my insecurity drove him away and he cannot continue on with me being like this anymore, so he called it off almost 2 weeks ago, claiming that we will never get back together again. I have been unhappy in this relationship for almost 3 years but did not want to leave my bf as i was hoping he would change (to be more caring and loving towards me.) 4 days after the breakup, my bf (who flew overseas the day after he broken up with me) messaged me and asked if we could meet up and talk. Around a week after the breakup a male friend of mine have opened up to me about his feelings towards me, i knew he had a thing for me 2 years ago but did not expect that until this day he still has feelings for me. We didn't really keep in contact much during the years when i was still with my bf, because he didn't want to get close to me as i wasn't single. I started dating this guy because i felt happy with him, is it too quick? my ex found out that we started dating and sent me messages saying "good luck to you, now you don't need to worry about anything" - because the guy i am dating now is financially well. Why do i feel so upset that my ex has said that to me? I am happy with the guy i am with now, but at times my ex still pops up into my head and i feel a bit upset. we are both 29, the guy i am dating now is 33
ExpatInItaly Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 Generally, I would say that yes, a week after a non-mutual breakup is much too soon to be dating someone else. You two are barely even dating if this all started a week ago, too. Please don't get too far ahead of yourself there. It seems to me that you are minimizing how hurt you are by your breakup, by saying that your ex only "pops into" your mind at times, and you still feel "a bit upset" about it. The break-up is very fresh, so it's normal that your ex is on your mind a lot more than "sometimes." My guess is that you turned to this other guy not so much because you want a relationship with him right now, but to ease your pain from your ex ending things. It feels good to have someone interested in us, especially if you felt neglected by your ex, but you have to really be cautious that you are dating this new guy for the right reasons. In my opinion, you would be wise to stay single and really allow yourself to heal. You're still in shock from the breakup and haven't really processed it yet, based on what you have written here. That is not a good place from which to begin a new relationship.
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