Isle Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 (edited) I broke up with my ex just over a year ago. We'd been together for going on eight years, and the break was far from amicable; well, from my perspective anyway. I was extremely upset about it all. A few weeks later she asked me to send a couple of DVDs back to her that she'd left. At the time, I was trying my best to expunge every memory of her from my mind, so I didn't reply nor send them to her. Now, a year on and following a bit of a tidy up, I found the DVDs. Although there's been a lot of water under the bridge since this time last year and feelings have subsided a bit, I have to admit that finding her belongings, regardless of how trivial they may be, brought back some negative emotions. I'm now wondering, should I dispose of the items or send them back to her? Either way, I'd like to get this final reminder of her out of my home. Isle. Edited October 28, 2018 by Isle
Million.to.1 Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 I would just get rid of them... unless they are personal home movie DVDs of like family events or something..or a box set series maybe? .... but if they are just movies, chuck them. Who even watches DVDs anymore? you can stream anything these days and dvds are not worth anything. Hopefully chucking them out will be the last of any negative feelings. Onwards and upwards Isle.
Zahara Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 Pack it all in a box and discard. It’s been over a year so if she had anything more valuable than a bunch of movies, she would have asked for it then.
crystal_77 Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 Do you have her address? If so, just send them without any note. If you have to ask her for her address, maybe then donate them so you don't have to communicate with her. I am annoyed with my ex because he never gave back my stuff. It wasn't his to throw out. 1
Normm Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 If it's convenient enough to mail them or drop them off then do it, otherwise donate them to the library. Odds are she doesn't want them or she would have contacted you either directly or through a friend.
Author Isle Posted October 29, 2018 Author Posted October 29, 2018 I have an address I could send them to, but as some of you have said, she might not even be bothered about them now. It was a good few months ago since she last asked. I'm torn between returning them because they aren't mine, or donating them to charity because she maybe doesn't care about them anymore.
Normm Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 If only all our lives decisions could be so inconsequential. Should I step in between or on the cracks in the sidewalk? Kill that spider on the wall? Get dessert after dinner, it's a special occasion (it's Monday). Should I spend $5 to ship a box of DVDs or think about it for days? If it was me, I would have already decided. One way or another. To me it's not worth renting the space in my head about such a silly thing. 1
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