toyboy98 Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Me and my girlfriend have been together for few months. This is my first serious relationship ever. I like her alot but if we spend alot of time together and sleep next to eachother every night, I need, at some point, time alone. If I get to spend time alone with only myself for few days, I will miss her again. Is this normal? I feel like if I spend one week with her, next week alone, next with her and so on, it would be perfect. Is this the fear of losing freedom or what?
Garcon1986 Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 When you are away from an adorable girlfriend, it's quite normal to feel feelings of longing for her, because you value her and her time. If you need space away from her, I would just do some inner contemplation as to why you need space - is there some brewing conflict about to come in your relationship? If there isn't, needing personal time is normal too. I would be very very clear to her, so that the mind games and misinterpretation don't start, as to why you need personal space if she asks. She will doubt your loyalty if you don't explain this right. On the other hand, if she is mature and secure, she should be fine with you taking a bit of personal time or a mutual schedule rearrangement to fit your needs.
SerPundnes Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 No matter how nice, loving and good a girlfriend is, the only person you should want to be with 24/7 is yourself. Everyone needs their alone-time, there is no way around that. So congrats, yes you are normal!
smackie9 Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 You have been together for two months and you sleep by each other's side every night? Yer nuts. Stop spending the night first off. Go out with friends, or sit at home alone say 4 days a week. Meet up with her for dates, like dinner, or go bowling, but then GO HOME and sleep in your own bed. Break it up, say go out together on a Tuesday, maybe on a Thursday, then hang out for a full day and night Saturday...better to give each other a day or two rest in between. The one week on one week off, she's going to be sniffin somewhere else for attention.
Lotsgoingon Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Sleeping together each night is what is not normal. Stop that ... yes, you're going to get sick of her ... you guys aren't married. You want to spend maybe a night or two with her a week ... but stay in your own space ... She's treating you like a teddy bear. And yes, it is normal to feel suffocated when two months in, you're sleeping with someone every night. 1
snowboy91 Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 Needing time alone (or at least, not with her) is normal, especially in the earlier parts of a relationship. You'll need to explain that very clearly and carefully as to why you feel you need space - the last thing you need is for her to get worried and for you to stress over how she might be feeling. A way around it might be to schedule time with friends or to do something else you enjoy. A change is often as good as space... and it gives you something to talk about with your GF the next time you see each other.
fromheart Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 First big relationship, early stages. Its like a bombs gone off in your life, in a good way. Yes, you need the occasional proverbial walk up the mountain from time to time.
Mrs._December Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 If the "98" in your nic is indicative of your birth year, then that means you're barely 20 years old (or still a teenage boy). You don't need to be attached to her hip every second of the day. You're MUCH too young for that. It doesn't have be ALL or nothing. Find a good, healthy mix of 'me' time and girlfriend time, and stick with it.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 It's probably a case of too much, too soon. OP, it's normal to want some breathing room, but it sounds as though you two spend nearly every night together already. It's a lot so early on. Create some healthy space. Plan things with your friends, or just by yourself, and don't be afraid to be honest that you need a little "me" time. My first serious boyfriend was very attached to me, never wanted time on his own, and I soon felt smothered and wanting a break. I felt I couldn't do anything on my own and I became resentful. The same will probably happen to you if you don't change your approach to this relationship now. Speak up now, be kind about it, see how she responds, and go from there.
preraph Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 No matter how much I like someone, I don't want them around all the time. Theyd have to be gone some when I'm home.
Author toyboy98 Posted October 30, 2018 Author Posted October 30, 2018 This is funny but this morning when we woke up she said she wants to sleep alone tonight. I told her that its okay and how good it is to have some space. Feeling good right now I will play games all night long just by myself picking nose and farting explosive farts! 2
d0nnivain Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 Alone time is good. Spend at least 1 night per week alone. It's healthier.
smackie9 Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 When my husband is out of town, I eat everything he hates....I gorge myself on pork chops, BBQ pork ribs, fish sticks, Chinese food and pancakes or waffles lol And the nice thing about it is I don't get interrupted when I have a nap.
alphamale Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 When my husband is out of town, I eat everything he hates....I gorge myself on pork chops, BBQ pork ribs, fish sticks, Chinese food and pancakes or waffles lol And the nice thing about it is I don't get interrupted when I have a nap. when my ex-wife used to go to Toronto to visit her family I would smoke like a chimney and drink like a fish 1
sabaton Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 you guys have been dating for 2 months and you already spend every day and every night together? Yeah, of course you want your own personal space. You are not married. There is no reason to spend every waking free moment together.
alphamale Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 you guys have been dating for 2 months and you already spend every day and every night together? Yeah, of course you want your own personal space. You are not married. There is no reason to spend every waking free moment together. but they are in L-O-V-E sabaton
sabaton Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 but they are in L-O-V-E sabaton Love is a beautiful thing! but that doesn't mean they have to be attached to each other by the hip
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