shesabeauty Posted October 28, 2018 Share Posted October 28, 2018 I met a couple of cuties on the dance floor. I am not much of a 'dancer' but it was 'halloween weekend' and I was having a good time. One of the girls grabbed the side frames of the window on the wall and began to 'twerk' shaking her ass wildly directly in front of my crotch. She did this multiple times. I spanked her lightly each time and she giggled a bit. I invited her to do the same to me. But I didn't grind with her. I felt very inhibited. I have had girls do this many times before, 'getting low' or grinding against me but twerkers are a bit more rare. After a couple of songs, she left. I think maybe I was supposed to escalate but I'm not sure. Are there any experienced clubgoers here? Link to post Share on other sites
snowcones Posted October 28, 2018 Share Posted October 28, 2018 It depends on her mindset, which you can not know. Some girls absolutely know that twerking all over or in front of some guy is going to give him a "show" and probably turn him on, and they don't care. They want the attention or perks that will come from it, but have no sexual interest in him. Some girls know the effect it has on a man and will use it to communicate her sexual interest in him. Some girls learned how to do this dance from other girls (they even have classes on it and workout routines at gyms based on it) and they have no idea the effect it has on boys/men. They only did it around other girls when they learned and it was non-sexual and they think they are just doing the cool dance of the day. I personally don't like the dance but no one wants me to do it anyway. Sorry that didn't clear things up for you, but you just can't know. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 28, 2018 Share Posted October 28, 2018 Ya you should have grind her, and ask if she would like to go home with you. She probably either walked out with you, or got upset...but when they get upset, they later come looking for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sabaton Posted October 28, 2018 Share Posted October 28, 2018 I met a couple of cuties on the dance floor. I am not much of a 'dancer' but it was 'halloween weekend' and I was having a good time. One of the girls grabbed the side frames of the window on the wall and began to 'twerk' shaking her ass wildly directly in front of my crotch. She did this multiple times. I spanked her lightly each time and she giggled a bit. I invited her to do the same to me. But I didn't grind with her. I felt very inhibited. I have had girls do this many times before, 'getting low' or grinding against me but twerkers are a bit more rare. After a couple of songs, she left. I think maybe I was supposed to escalate but I'm not sure. Are there any experienced clubgoers here? You should have grabbed her waist and grinded your groin on her butt, bro. When a girl does that it's because she's ovulating, but make sure to wear a condom because if you don't say hello to 18 years of child support at a minimum 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 29, 2018 Share Posted October 29, 2018 It's not a definitive sign of interest. She may simply enjoy that style of dancing. Twerking at you in public does not mean she was interested in getting horizontal in private. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 29, 2018 Share Posted October 29, 2018 Girls have been looking for a guy to dance with since time immemorial. If a guy isn't there, she'd have done it to another girl. Still, she might think you're cute or something. So just ask her to dance again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shesabeauty Posted October 31, 2018 Author Share Posted October 31, 2018 Girls have been looking for a guy to dance with since time immemorial. If a guy isn't there, she'd have done it to another girl. Still, she might think you're cute or something. So just ask her to dance again. Twerking does not require a dance partner. Link to post Share on other sites
sabaton Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 (edited) Girls have been looking for a guy to dance with since time immemorial. If a guy isn't there, she'd have done it to another girl. Still, she might think you're cute or something. So just ask her to dance again. Girls aren't dancing with guys they aren't attracted to, not if we are talking about a style of dance that was literally devised by young women with amazingly big and perky butts with the intent to attract men. If you're talking about those ballroom dances, sure, they often will dance with any guy who is up to dancing. But we're talking about twerking. Which is an intimate, highly sexual dance. Girls already know we learn to dance to increase our chances of getting laid, and they know that if they dance like this (Britain's got Talent twerking) the guy is going to hound them all night long so they ain't gonna grind, or twerk some random dude just because he wants to dance. And this is why I fell in love with Angolan women when I visited a Kuduro/Kizomba nightclub when I was visiting Angola Or when you travel to Brazil and you are lucky enough to dance samba with the locals, like it happened with these dudes I'll never understand how the poorest Countries in the world make the most beautiful women in the world. Edited October 31, 2018 by sabaton Link to post Share on other sites
Author shesabeauty Posted October 31, 2018 Author Share Posted October 31, 2018 This forum has so many posters who are in their 50's and 60's it's hard for them to understand club life today. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 This forum has so many posters who are in their 50's and 60's it's hard for them to understand club life today. It's not all that different then club life ever. People are people & they haven't fundamentally changed. The only way you will know for sure is if you talk to the girl & actually ask her on a date. I'd say do that in person but since you think I'm an old fart, go ahead text her or Snapchat her because you know, you wouldn't want to interact with her in person. Link to post Share on other sites
portwine49 Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 I met a couple of cuties on the dance floor. I am not much of a 'dancer' but it was 'halloween weekend' and I was having a good time. One of the girls grabbed the side frames of the window on the wall and began to 'twerk' shaking her ass wildly directly in front of my crotch. She did this multiple times. I spanked her lightly each time and she giggled a bit. I invited her to do the same to me. But I didn't grind with her. I felt very inhibited. I have had girls do this many times before, 'getting low' or grinding against me but twerkers are a bit more rare. After a couple of songs, she left. I think maybe I was supposed to escalate but I'm not sure. Are there any experienced clubgoers here? Maybe I'm nuts, lol, but I think you were getting mixed signals. She twerked in front of your crotch, you responded by spanking her lightly. It would seem that she was giving you an open invitation and enjoyed it by giggling a bit. You respected boundaries by stopping there. The fact she left makes me think she wanted the attention to boost her ego, but obviously was sexually flirting with you. Yah, in hindsight you could have escalated it, but didn't because you felt inhibited. It's not you. You responded to her sexy invitation to interact but were respectful by not crossing lines. It was her turn to reciprocate the intimacy of the twerk dance. You respected boundaries of not taking it further. Good you went with your intuition to be inhibited as if it went the other way, some girls might stir things up by teasing and then crying you had no right to spank them. I see where you would want to inquire on other opinions on this. You did the right thing by holding back after initiating your response. Maybe you will see her again, and the interest will escalate. Link to post Share on other sites
WomenWubber Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 You went by your gut and thats prolly the best call. Maybe next time. Link to post Share on other sites
Normm Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 You went by your gut and thats prolly the best call. Only if his gut gets him laid. Not if he continues to fail with women. Link to post Share on other sites
sabaton Posted October 31, 2018 Share Posted October 31, 2018 (edited) This forum has so many posters who are in their 50's and 60's it's hard for them to understand club life today. That I agree with. You have a whole bunch of middle-aged women and women who are older than my father(he's 63) who have no contact with young people other than their daughters and sons or grandaughters and grandsons, and obviously their sons and grandsons are not going to talk to them how they're getting laid or trying to get laid. You know, despite the fact that the porn industry began in the US, and the strip-club industry in the USA is HUGE being the only form of legalized prostitution American men will ever get to be close to(with the exception of Nevada)what I've experienced from living in Europe is that Americans aren't really all that comfortable with sex, either believing sex should only happen within a relationship, to women genuinely being of the firm conviction that young, attractive women aren't interested in casual sex and only/mostly want relationships, and that when they have sex with a guy who isn't their boyfriend or husband it's because they have romantic feelings for him and are trying to get him to date them:lmao: I remember this middle-aged lady that was saying, on another forum, how she is not interested in having her son become girl-crazy, that she wanted him to find himself a steady girlfriend and start a relationship that would lead to marriage, and then she was talking about how she regrets her promiscuous past. Then we have my mother, who was talking to me about sex and about her sexual adventures when I was not even 10 years old yet, and how my mother talked about sex and girls and men with such ease, and made me see that women who sleep with a lot of guys, women who don't need to call you boyfriend to sleep with you aren't the monsters that many insecure young men feel these women to be. Edited October 31, 2018 by sabaton Link to post Share on other sites
Author shesabeauty Posted November 2, 2018 Author Share Posted November 2, 2018 It's not all that different then club life ever. People are people & they haven't fundamentally changed. The only way you will know for sure is if you talk to the girl & actually ask her on a date. I'd say do that in person but since you think I'm an old fart, go ahead text her or Snapchat her because you know, you wouldn't want to interact with her in person. How old are you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author shesabeauty Posted November 2, 2018 Author Share Posted November 2, 2018 I hung out with this girl on halloween as part of a small group out. She seemed happy to see me but I'm used to women throwing themselves at me and she wasn't acting like that. I just assumed she wasn't interested so I just felt free to explore the club on my own a bit. Four or five women approached me and she noticed. After the first couple, she didn't do anything besides stand with her back to the wall watching me dancing, singing and grinding with other girls. She remained motionless watching for well over an hour. Periodically, she tried to get me back. She was stationed with our group but she was always right behind me at her 12 o'clock. She approached from behind and grabbed me by the shoulders each time: "dave, is everything ok?" "steve from our group left" "dave, I don't want to lose you" "dave, I'm going to leave with this guy (points to him and leaves)" 5 minutes later: "hi dave I'm back!" She grabs me by the shoulders again, bit of a massage, but I ignore her. I don't know why I just don't feel like she's showing as much interest as I'd like. Another hot girl approaches and I lose track of her. She texts multiple times in the morning asking me to text back and saying she had a good time watching me enjoy myself. (head scratcher). We had different expectations of who would do the chasing and I think both of us got confused. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted November 2, 2018 Share Posted November 2, 2018 What's the custom in your culture OP? Is casual sex prevalent? Are women generally more aggressive or passive? Now, if I feel that sexual vibe, regardless of when/where/whatever, I act on it and accept the response. if/when rebuffed, I smile and either say nothing or a return a witty comment or double-entendre. Women know their sexual power and how to wield it, whether they feign surprise/shock or not. Most recent was in a kitchen playfully brushing up against a decidedly awesome ass. MW said stop rubbing your cock on my ass and, yup I did with a smile, went on to something else and half hour later she jumped into my lap and was chewing on my tonsils. Again, women know their sexual power. They know when they're horny in general or with a particular man and, sure, like to present an air of sophisticated and polite behavior but all the libido needs is the right trigger and it's off to the races. With moves like twerking the key is less is more. Next time try a light grip of her waist instead of spanking. Let her feel you but also continue her moves. I've noticed with most of my lovers the area above their hips is like a mating trigger. Pretty amazing how with the right grip they fall right into mating behavior. Not young but grew up during a marked period of burgeoning sexual and reproductive freedom and often wanton lust and without #metoo and similar. Your particulars will likely depend on your demographics. If you're willing to share that perhaps more targeted advice can occur. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shesabeauty Posted November 2, 2018 Author Share Posted November 2, 2018 Late 20's. Some people think I look a bit younger. I'm in the US: I take a don't ask, don't tell approach when it comes to people's private lives so I don't make a point of knowing the ins and outs so to speak of people's sex lives except for what they tell me unsolicited. Women know their sexual power but I have sexual power too and I only use just enough to level the field. A woman will know that just as many women want me as men want them. But I can get carried away I'm sure. Link to post Share on other sites
LoverOfDance Posted November 3, 2018 Share Posted November 3, 2018 So Op, you're one of those men who like to be wooed by women, lol. Turn off for me but turn on for some women i guess. Also, twerking is NOT a sign of interest. It's quite funny that you would ask this question. Girls like to have fun ESPECIALLY girls who go to clubs. If you like a girl, flirt, ask her out. She might like you, she might not. If you don't ask, you will NOT find out. All you're doing right now is making speculation and reading into almost everything. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 3, 2018 Share Posted November 3, 2018 By leaving her and not pursuing conversation, you made it pretty clear that you weren't interested. You further showed your disinterest by ignoring her when she came up to tap you on the shoulder to try and engage you. There's no confusion on her part because you clearly showed that you weren't into her *at all* I can't figure out why you're posting about someone who you're not interested in. Link to post Share on other sites
HiCrunchy Posted November 3, 2018 Share Posted November 3, 2018 Sometimes but not always I have friends that like to tease or like the attention from men by twerking or grinding but don't care to go home with them. Some even go as far as making out with them on the dance floor lol. It's just validation. Makes them feel wanted and sexy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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