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Breaking the ice - the first phone convo


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hi all,

 

im new on the site but definetly not with women. I used to have no problems, getting 3/4 of the women id try but now ive hit a snag. I have a problem with asking 1,000,001 questions when i first talk to a girl on the phone. This almost ALWAYS drives them away. So, my question is how can i get to know someone without asking a ton of questions?

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hi all.... So, my question is how can i get to know someone without asking a ton of questions?

 

A good relationsship should start with a 2-sided interview. Let's face it; If you truly are interested in knowing someone from the inside-out, you should consider that both parties have to ask questions. Do you like coffee? Tea? Oreos? Wheat Thins? What about the color blue? Favorite music? Movie?

 

If she's not asking questions with you, her interests aren't into you or she may not be focused completely on dating in general. When two people are interested in dating each other, it's about questions, relating, banter. It should always be light and conversational, very natural.

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i guess its a good start that you understand the problem. nothing wrong with asking a few things here and there; though preferably nothing too personal if you just met the person. ask, but give her a chance to drive the conversation - none of this machine gun inquirey stuff. thats just creepy. oh, and if she's not really chatting you up, she probably wants you to go away :lmao:

 

hi all,

 

im new on the site but definetly not with women. I used to have no problems, getting 3/4 of the women id try but now ive hit a snag. I have a problem with asking 1,000,001 questions when i first talk to a girl on the phone. This almost ALWAYS drives them away. So, my question is how can i get to know someone without asking a ton of questions?

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hi all,

 

im new on the site but definetly not with women. I used to have no problems, getting 3/4 of the women id try but now ive hit a snag. I have a problem with asking 1,000,001 questions when i first talk to a girl on the phone. This almost ALWAYS drives them away. So, my question is how can i get to know someone without asking a ton of questions?

 

 

Ask less questions. Pick a couple of topics that you both find interesting and start chatting. Don't fear small pauses in converations (silence). Ask questions and allow her to ask questions about the topic.

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girls often say i analyze things too much. i cant help it, but i like to examine situations from different angles. Is there something wrong with that or the girls?

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You probably analyze because you want to make sure you don't make mistakes and you want to be aware of what is going on--I have done that before. If you think or overanalyze the situation, you will not be at your best... overthinking will disrupt your flow. You want to be at your best!

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Umm....I hate when I'm on the phone with a guy for the first time and it turns into a big survey. So do you have a dog? What's your favorite color? What's your favorite movie? How tall are you? What kind of music so you like? etc., etc., etc. :rolleyes:

 

I'd much rather have the convo be real simple - just be laid back like you're talking to one of your friends. I think it's better to make a date and ask questions then in person. It's more comfortable to me and feels less like one of those telemarketer calls.

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girls often say i analyze things too much. i cant help it, but i like to examine situations from different angles. Is there something wrong with that or the girls?

 

BTW - it's something wrong with the girls ;)

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BTW - it's something wrong with the girls ;)

i appreciate that but i know its me :o

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