Kingking_16 Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Me and my child’s mother broke up after 5 years. We were great but just like all relationships they have there ups and downs. I wanted to marry her and I was really close to. Can someone help me I need to get her back I will do whatever I have to right now I’m at the no contact stage.
d0nnivain Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 Sorry but with a child in the picture you don't get the luxury of NC. You must remain in communication for the best interests of the child. Focus on your child & being the best parent you can be.
preraph Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 Be a dutiful father. Go with her to the Court and get visitation drawn up and do your half of the parenting once the baby isn't nursing. Pay your child support like clockwork (if you're in the US, the state will take it out of your pay) and be reliable. If she has any desire to have you back, doing these things and being a dependable dad and provider are your best bet . Good luck.
Normm Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 When you say things were great, you need to be looking at the relationship as a whole. It wasn't great if there were downs that were so low that you can no longer be together. Figure out what went wrong and see if you can make the necessary changes in yourself and how you behave and act towards her before it's too late- if it's not already. Saying things were great is the first step in the completely opposite direction of where you need to be going.
Jmurray1990 Posted November 3, 2018 Posted November 3, 2018 Im going throw the same situation as you at the moment, we have been finished for 6 months now. i thought the same as you with are relationship but it finished for a reason you need to think of negatives instead of positives. I tried everything with my ex showed her i was different, do things she wouldn't expect me to do, put a load of pictures on Instagram me being happy, i asked her back and said we would still be friend etc but its just prolongs the heartbreak. i guess you've done the same as me ? my experience no contact is the best option. what i found talking to friends about it reliefs a lot of stress, before this i never opened up to anyone but letting it stew in your head will make it 100 times worse, let it out you will feel better. Last thing with my ex as soon as she seen me moving on she would give me attention again, this is basically a test you need to be strong if you crack they will see that your the same, they will distance themself from you again and you will open up your wounds go throw it all again. Its going to be hard, but what i toke from me breaking up with my ex was..... if we get back together ill be happy and even if we don't get back together ill be happy life goes on (sounds better in my head) haha.
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