strawberryn Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Hello! It's my first time here and I need some advices. My ex-boyfriend and I haven't spoken since we broke up (1 month ago) but his friend (that I saw once) called me 2 days ago. The phone rang only twice. How should I interpret this knowing that I barely know this guy?
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Don't interpret it. Call the guy back & ask him what he wanted. Guessing will only make you crazy
Author strawberryn Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 I guess you're right, but I don't want to look needy towards his friend and my ex (obviously). So I keep telling myself that he didn't call me on purpose..
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 You are not needy by calling. You are solving a mystery
Author strawberryn Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 Again, you're right but I think I'm using this excuse because I have too much pride and I don't feel like calling this person that I don't know.. hahaha Anyway, thank you for answering!
ExpatInItaly Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 I guess you're right, but I don't want to look needy towards his friend and my ex (obviously). So I keep telling myself that he didn't call me on purpose.. How would you look needy if he called you first?
Author strawberryn Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 Well, I just feel like he didn't call me on purpose or that he did it to annoy me
ExpatInItaly Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Well, I just feel like he didn't call me on purpose or that he did it to annoy me Well, then, there's your answer. No need to stress over what it means. 1
Author strawberryn Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 Yeah but I don't know if it's the case. I just wanted to know if people are sharing my opinion..
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 There are too many possibilities. 1. He is a bad friend & is calling you because he wants to go out with you. 2. It wasn't the friend, it was your EX using his buddy's phone. 3. He is trying to annoy you. 4. Your EX asked him to call to act as a go between 5. He was trying to hack your phone or send you a virus If you want to know you have to ask. If you are good assuming that nothing good can come from you calling the guy, block his number, forget about him & move on.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Yeah but I don't know if it's the case. I just wanted to know if people are sharing my opinion.. What opinion - that he called just to annoy you? We can't begin to guess, with almost no context given. Why did you break up? How long did you date?
Author strawberryn Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 Oh, I'm sorry.. I should have started with this. He broke up with me 1 month ago after being 11 months together. He said that he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore and that he would probably regret it but that he wants to forget me.
Chassit Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 I think the best advice is to ignore it and let it go. Who knows what he wanted. It may be something you would be better off not knowing. 1
stillafool Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Probably the friend feels after a month you two are not getting back together so he may want to date you but chickened out. Maybe he knows your ex is seeing someone else so he now wants a chance with you.
SerPundnes Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 How did you meet his friend? Have you talked with him trough text? Or has it only been this one time when you met? How did you know it was him?
Author strawberryn Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 @chassit That's what I'm going to do, if it is important, he'll call back.. 1
crystal_77 Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Don't call him back. I don't know why people are suggesting that. Just keep in mind that it doesn't matter why he called you... if he wants to get back in touch, he will. It could have been an accidental call. Just let it go and don't get your hopes up that it meant anything. It probably didn't.
losangelena Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 After my ex and I broke up, his best friend FaceTimed me a couple of times. I did not pick up either time, and assumed it was a mistake—he probably mis-dialed or fat-fingered, because he never called me when I was together with my ex; if we ever needed to communicate, we did so through text. I figured if it was important, he’d make sure he got ahold of me, and he never followed up. If you’re just too curious, text him and ask if he needs something. Otherwise, assume it was a butt-dial and move on.
Author strawberryn Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 @stillafool To be honest, I would be surprised because he saw me once and barely knows me. He knows me through my ex and my pictures on IG. My ex used to talk a lot about him, and I don't think he's the kind of guy to date his friend's ex.. Well maybe you're right but it seems impossible to me..
Author strawberryn Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 @SerPundnes We met before my ex and I got together. I've never talked to him through texts, he just follows me on IG and that's all. I didn't have his number on my phone, so I just looked at his profile picture on What's App and I recognized him..
SerPundnes Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 @SerPundnes We met before my ex and I got together. I've never talked to him through texts, he just follows me on IG and that's all. I didn't have his number on my phone, so I just looked at his profile picture on What's App and I recognized him.. Then I'd ignore it. If he calls again, ask him what he wants. He is pretty much a random to you, kinda creepy imo. 1
elaine567 Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Do you know that your ex is OK? There could be many reasons for the call but one may be that something has happened to your ex...
Author strawberryn Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 @elaine567 We're still 'friends' on social media and he seems to be fine! 1
Timshel Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 @SerPundnes We met before my ex and I got together. I've never talked to him through texts, he just follows me on IG and that's all. I didn't have his number on my phone, so I just looked at his profile picture on What's App and I recognized him.. Then I'd ignore it. If he calls again, ask him what he wants. He is pretty much a random to you, kinda creepy imo. Ignore him. Creepy friend of ex boyfriend, fishing. Move along.
preraph Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 I wouldn't call back. I'd expect him to leave a message or try again. Like others pointed out, he's not a good guy if he's trying to date his friend's ex, and it's not a nice thing to do, so best to avoid that. Otherwise, not likely to be any good reason, so just don't return the call.
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