ProfessorOptics Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 When we text, she usually takes awhile to respond, and doesn't talk much. When we're in the same room together, she's looking at me, talking to me, smiling at me, and touching me. Is she being flakey, manipulative, taking me for a ride? or is she just not a big texter?
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Always assess in person behavior not texting. Texting is meaningless, especially in comparison. 1
sabaton Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 When we text, she usually takes awhile to respond, and doesn't talk much. When we're in the same room together, she's looking at me, talking to me, smiling at me, and touching me. Is she being flakey, manipulative, taking me for a ride? or is she just not a big texter? She might be talking to other guys through text, guys she is more intereste in. But she goes out with you, one on one? Does she know that you are attracted to her or does she see you more as a friend? Is she the touchy type with only you? Or is she doing that to other guys she considers to be friends?
elaine567 Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 When you go out together is she someone who is always checking her phone for messages and keeping up on social media. If she is, then the fact she takes ages to reply to you may be a bit of a problem. Are you actually dating, or is this just someone you meet occasionally? 1
Author ProfessorOptics Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 When you go out together is she someone who is always checking her phone for messages and keeping up on social media. If she is, then the fact she takes ages to reply to you may be a bit of a problem. Are you actually dating, or is this just someone you meet occasionally? she's someone I see occasionally when out with my friends. When she talks to me, her phone is out of sight, and her attention, I believe, is on me. she isn't looking around or waiting for someone to "rescue" her. Though from what I can tell she does get distracted easily, yet not so much with me.
sabaton Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 she's someone I see occasionally when out with my friends. So you don't even have this woman's phone number? And she has no idea that you are interested in her? You only spend time with her when she's with her group of friends and you are with yours? When she talks to me, her phone is out of sight, and her attention, I believe, is on me. she isn't looking around or waiting for someone to "rescue" her. Though from what I can tell she does get distracted easily, yet not so much with me. Step 1 - ask for her number. Step 2 - initiate a convo. Step 3- be funny. Step 4 - be Flirty. Step 5 - if she responds in kind by being flirty, proceed with it, and ask her out on a date. Make that specific. It's a date, not a hanging out with your frinds together.
Author ProfessorOptics Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 So you don't even have this woman's phone number? And she has no idea that you are interested in her? You only spend time with her when she's with her group of friends and you are with yours? Step 1 - ask for her number. Step 2 - initiate a convo. Step 3- be funny. Step 4 - be Flirty. Step 5 - if she responds in kind by being flirty, proceed with it, and ask her out on a date. Make that specific. It's a date, not a hanging out with your frinds together. Oh she knows I'm attracted to her. My first words to her were "My God, you're intoxicating to look at" because honestly, that's what I felt the moment I met her. I have her number, and I've asked her out. By specific, what do you mean exactly? like disclosing what we're going to do, or just setting a definite time and day to go out, and giving her just an idea of what we're doing...
Cersei Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Oh she knows I'm attracted to her. My first words to her were "My God, you're intoxicating to look at" because honestly, that's what I felt the moment I met her. I have her number, and I've asked her out. By specific, what do you mean exactly? like disclosing what we're going to do, or just setting a definite time and day to go out, and giving her just an idea of what we're doing... Just a tip from a female. I think your "intoxicating to look at" comment is a bit over the top. Perhaps ease up on that type of thing till you know her better. I would have been out of there if it were said to me.
sabaton Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Oh she knows I'm attracted to her. My first words to her were "My God, you're intoxicating to look at" because honestly, that's what I felt the moment I met her. I have her number, and I've asked her out. By specific, what do you mean exactly? like disclosing what we're going to do, or just setting a definite time and day to go out, and giving her just an idea of what we're doing... Call her on the phone telling her that you have this date(with her ) planned and then set a definite time and day to go out with her, and then give her an idea of what you're planning to take her on a date, so that she doesn't show up wearing sneakers when you have a ice-skating day planned or something. Also, the same day your date is set to, call her/text her early so that she knows that you are still interested in going out with her. Oh she knows I'm attracted to her. My first words to her were "My God, you're intoxicating to look at" because honestly, that's what I felt the moment I met her. Yeah, but attractive girls get hit on all the time and hear that all the time. You can't start going off like that because she'll think she's just eye candy to you. First establish some sort of connection and then hit on her like you are the Persian Army raining down arrows on the Spartans.
FMW Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Since you don't see her on her phone a lot she's probably just not that into texting. Face to face interaction is what's important and it sounds like that is good. 1
Author ProfessorOptics Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 Call her on the phone telling her that you have this date(with her ) planned and then set a definite time and day to go out with her, and then give her an idea of what you're planning to take her on a date, so that she doesn't show up wearing sneakers when you have a ice-skating day planned or something. Can't the same thing be achieved by simply saying something like, wear something comfortable, or wear something smart? Also, the same day your date is set to, call her/text her early so that she knows that you are still interested in going out with her. Isn't that being needy/overpursuing from my part, doing the whole, call me to confirm type of thing?? Yeah, but attractive girls get hit on all the time and hear that all the time. You can't start going off like that because she'll think she's just eye candy to you. First establish some sort of connection and then hit on her like you are the Persian Army raining down arrows on the Spartans. Well, we have been chatting for a little while, so either she's playing me, or she admired the way I approached her, because she didn't run away and blow me off when I asked her out. She even told me she was attracted to me. Hasn't let me know when she's available yet, said she'll let me know tomorrow. Beginning to wonder if I should just leave it, take it that she blew me off and move on to someone else, but I am seeing her tomorrow, casually.
dream of me Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 My man is not that big of a texter but he's very different in person. Talks to me a lot, he listens and remembers what I say, he's affectionate. He doesn't text others when we are together, and he's not hiding his phone or anything. Different times I thought he was ignoring me because he didn't respond for a while but some examples of what he was doing at the time: - booking a surprise romantic holiday - cleaning up his flat before I visited and making playlists for us to listen together - googling me and visiting my linkedin (don't ask how I know! I know. ) - drawing my portrait So I can feel he thinks of me more than he shows, or he wants to show.
smackie9 Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 OK so you asked her out and what? What happened?
Author ProfessorOptics Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 OK so you asked her out and what? What happened? She said she doesn't mind going out with me. she'll let me know tomorrow when she is available. that's not a good sign? though we did party quite hard last night so everyone is pretty out of it today. Halloween and all ya know lol and my anxiety is up today, so I keep worrying about why she doesn't text me much or what not. though face to face it's different. just small insignificant things lol
FMW Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 She said she doesn't mind going out with me. How generous of her.
Author ProfessorOptics Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 How generous of her. She ain't my queen. I told her that if she doesn't want to and can't make definite plans then we'll have to make it another time. Ain't a chance she's dragging me around.
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