Author LoneWolfWanderer Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 so i just messaged her: "Okay, well i'm feeling like i'm turning into a bit of game player, which is not my intention, nor my desire. so... if you're still okay with joining me for dinner, how about I pick you up by taxi on thursday evening at 6pm?" And before you ask, I don't drive lol. not sure if that was the right call to make.
alphamale Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 so i just messaged her: "Okay, well i'm feeling like i'm turning into a bit of game player, which is not my intention, nor my desire. so... if you're still okay with joining me for dinner, how about I pick you up by taxi on thursday evening at 6pm?" And before you ask, I don't drive lol. not sure if that was the right call to make. it's in Gods hands now LWW
Author LoneWolfWanderer Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 it's in Gods hands now LWW I'm asking if it was the right call for me to make as a man, or if it comes across as being too... people pleasing. Beyond that, whatever happens, happens.
snowcones Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 I'm asking if it was the right call for me to make as a man, or if it comes across as being too... people pleasing. Beyond that, whatever happens, happens. It's fine.
FMW Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Hey OP, it's great that you're open to suggestions. I think your follow-up message was good Women are just fellow people. We don't need or want to be managed or manipulated. Don't put us on a pedestal but don't treat us as weak or helpless. Approach things as you would a friend, but keep your eyes open for natural opportunities to flirt a little or give a compliment. Expect the same respect in return.
Cersei Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Good job on your follow up. One tip for the date ok? Be sure to ask her lots of questions about her. Most girls like to talk about themselves and their interests. Best of luck.
Author LoneWolfWanderer Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 Good job on your follow up. One tip for the date ok? Be sure to ask her lots of questions about her. Most girls like to talk about themselves and their interests. Best of luck. Won't that turn the date into like an interview? I do ask a lot of questions, especially when I'm find someone fascinating, but I can't help feel that it's turning into an interview process for a job, though dating kinda is like that tbh you're interviewing someone to fill a vacancy in your life lol
Cersei Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Oh ok. Sorry, I will clarify. As lots of question to start up conversations. Not question after question after question.
Mrs._December Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 ''Girl, I'm not like the other men that are hitting on you. I don't want to have sex with you the very first second you give me the go-ahead for it. I want to build a strong, genuine, emotional connection so ya see that you are special to me and that I am interested in something a lot more than just sex.'' LMAO!!!! Is this the dreck this Coach person is actually teaching his disciples? Bwahahahaa!!!! If any guy had EVER said that nonsense to me, I would have laughed right in their face. Literally. 1
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Well, if i made a mistake, i'm happy to own up to it. She even said she doesn't mind going to dinner with me. Is texting fine? I hate phone calls, I can never hear what they are saying on the other end lol. and what, do that now? even after i've royally f-ed up? Can I recover from this, or is it now a lost cause? You didn't make a complete mess. She was still talking to you so that's something. I hate texting but I am probably old enough to be your mom so don't go by me. You lose so much context & subtext by not hearing tone of voice & seeing body language. so i just messaged her: "Okay, well i'm feeling like i'm turning into a bit of game player, which is not my intention, nor my desire. so... if you're still okay with joining me for dinner, how about I pick you up by taxi on thursday evening at 6pm?" And before you ask, I don't drive lol. not sure if that was the right call to make. It was weak but OK. I would have lost the self deprecation & said something like: Hey, I am still interested in that dinner. How is Thursday at 6? We can do later if you need. What do you say? Letting her know you are 2nd guessing yourself & highlighting the fact that you don't drive are leading with your weaknesses not a place of strength. To the extent Corey Wayne & those other idiots teach you to stop being a people pleaser they may have some benefit; just stop using them as a Bible or some kind of step by step manual. Picking her up is fine but for an early date understand that for safety & independence reasons she may prefer to meet you at the restaurant; yet another reason your "surprise" is a bad plan. Won't that turn the date into like an interview? I do ask a lot of questions, especially when I'm find someone fascinating, but I can't help feel that it's turning into an interview process for a job, though dating kinda is like that tbh you're interviewing someone to fill a vacancy in your life lol In an interview the reporter asks Qs & reveals nothing. The art of conversation involves you searching for common ground & getting to know the other person. You should be prepared to answer any Qs you ask & offer anecdotes about your life so your date can get to know you. The keys include actually listening when she talks; being interested in what she has to say and not dominating the conversation by making it all about you. Focus on her.
esean75 Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 Take the shot (which you did and you don't need solid plans when you initially ask). Also, be the man and make the plans. I've found dinner to be too stuffy (and expensive) for a first date so drinks are fine just to see if there's chemistry. There either is or isn't.
sabaton Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 LMAO!!!! Is this the dreck this Coach person is actually teaching his disciples? Bwahahahaa!!!! If any guy had EVER said that nonsense to me, I would have laughed right in their face. Literally. I sincerely have no idea what is up with all of these guys becoming loyal, devoted disciples of that online coach corey something, there's even dudes on loveshack who can't write a post without adivising other men to buy the dude's books lol.
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