Jet8419 Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 I’ve got a guy friend that I catch up with occasionally, and usually our greeting is the normal cheek kiss when meeting and saying bye. However, the last 3 times we met, he hugs me instead and squeezes me really tight like he’s squeezing the air outta my lungs. I’m not sure if this is normal or he’s just exceptionally strong, or he’s trying to convey something else?
Chilli Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 hahaaa, that's funny , could be a million things. Maybe somethings really effd up in his life and he needs a hug Maybe you were looking extra nice and he lost it a little. Do you hug him much is it usually like that ? Maybe he doesn't hug many women and doesn't realize not to squeeze too much. Great help , l know
sabaton Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 I’ve got a guy friend that I catch up with occasionally, and usually our greeting is the normal cheek kiss when meeting and saying bye. However, the last 3 times we met, he hugs me instead and squeezes me really tight like he’s squeezing the air outta my lungs. I’m not sure if this is normal or he’s just exceptionally strong, or he’s trying to convey something else? Human bodies are warm. We like to be warm. Women's bodies are soft. All of that adds to why he loves to hug you. If you are attracted to your friend, consider asking him out on a date.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 I have a couple guy friends that do this. And a couple female friends who do the same. I don't think it necessarily means more, in an of itself. Do you like him? Has he given you other hints he might be interested? 1
Author Jet8419 Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 Human bodies are warm. We like to be warm. Women's bodies are soft. All of that adds to why he loves to hug you. If you are attracted to your friend, consider asking him out on a date. Hmmm... we’ve been out to dinner and brunch a few times but I’m not sure if they are considered dates though?
Author Jet8419 Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 I have a couple guy friends that do this. And a couple female friends who do the same. I don't think it necessarily means more, in an of itself. Do you like him? Has he given you other hints he might be interested? I’m not good at reading hints, so I wouldn’t be able to tell, other than every time we meet (once every few months), he’d be asking if I’m dating / dated anyone or why I’m not dating anyone. I recently went on a long holiday and he asked if I met anyone... Otherwise he just acts normal?
sabaton Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 I’m not good at reading hints, so I wouldn’t be able to tell, other than every time we meet (once every few months), he’d be asking if I’m dating / dated anyone or why I’m not dating anyone. I recently went on a long holiday and he asked if I met anyone... Otherwise he just acts normal? He could be just curious if you are seeing someone or dating because he wants you to be happy. I frequently ask my female friends if they're dating somebody, and it's not because I'm interested in dating them. I don't befriend women I'm attracted to, sexually, and I don't develop sexual attraction for someone over time. There's an easy way to get this figured out. Ask him out on a date. Make it clear it's a romantic date.
snowboy91 Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 For whatever reason, he was just excited to see you and went overboard on the hug. The excitement could be because you're a close friend and he's genuinely glad to see you in a platonic way, or because he's actually attracted to you. So ultimately you can't really see it as a sign of anything. Are you attracted to him? If so, I'll say the same thing as the others and ask him out on an actual date. Don't sit there waiting for him to make a move if you actually want to date him.
phineas Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 I only hug my chick friend;s tightly when they are next to me naked under the sheets. Don't want them coming to their senses and fleeing the house. Then no morning sex for me.
shydad Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 I’m not sure if this is normal or he’s just exceptionally strong, or he’s trying to convey something else? Hi Jet8419, I think it depends. I give strong hugs to some people (men, and family), but a strong embrace where I pull the person close to me is reserved for those I have a romantic interest in. I think the subtle details you haven't mentioned are important to know if he's trying to convey something else or not.
Author Jet8419 Posted October 29, 2018 Author Posted October 29, 2018 For whatever reason, he was just excited to see you and went overboard on the hug. The excitement could be because you're a close friend and he's genuinely glad to see you in a platonic way, or because he's actually attracted to you. So ultimately you can't really see it as a sign of anything. Are you attracted to him? If so, I'll say the same thing as the others and ask him out on an actual date. Don't sit there waiting for him to make a move if you actually want to date him. I wouldn’t want to risk our friendship if I misunderstood him and ask him out on a date. It was just really unusual as we’ve never hugged before this.
dream of me Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 Do your pelvises touch? I think this is what makes it a non-friendly hug. I could not live without my man's ultratight hugs.
Author Jet8419 Posted October 30, 2018 Author Posted October 30, 2018 Do your pelvises touch? I think this is what makes it a non-friendly hug. I think so? Didn’t really notice so much other than I was trying to breathe from being so squashed / crushed...
Author Jet8419 Posted October 30, 2018 Author Posted October 30, 2018 Is this the married guy? He’s not married.
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