bc72fgbjbc Posted October 26, 2018 Posted October 26, 2018 There's this girl I met online, we went on a first date, had fun, kissed. However she texted me later saying that she had a great time but she wasn't really comfortable kissing right now. It was okay for me, but a few days later she admitted me she is seeing someone else at the same time and can't choose between us right now, she needs time. We continued seeing each other since I think it's okay to not be exclusive after only one date. so I told myself maybe I could meet with other girls too since it's apparently not a problem with her. But it doesn't feel right I'm really into her. However, since she talked about the other dude she's more distant, just a little bit of cudling but nothing more (she's been at my house 2 times already), and less texting. I tried kissing her an other time, but she turned away and said ''not right now, it's not the right moment''. I'm growing kind of bored so I guess I should end it with her before getting hurt, but I'm soo into her. I really don't know.
alphamale Posted October 26, 2018 Posted October 26, 2018 dude you don't even know her, how can you be so into her?
Author bc72fgbjbc Posted October 26, 2018 Author Posted October 26, 2018 dude you don't even know her, how can you be so into her? We've been talking for a few weeks already. Sometimes it just happens, you think you found the gem.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 26, 2018 Posted October 26, 2018 We've been talking for a few weeks already. Sometimes it just happens, you think you found the gem. But that's the problem - she doesn't feel the same way.
Author bc72fgbjbc Posted October 26, 2018 Author Posted October 26, 2018 But that's the problem - she doesn't feel the same way. So do you think it's worth it to give it more time?
preraph Posted October 26, 2018 Posted October 26, 2018 She has a boyfriend, so I don't know what she's up to, but if she was really into you, she'd do what so many do and monkey branch right over to you. I mean, I can't buy her late-blooming conscience. I mean, she did go on a date with another man while she has this bf, so she wouldn't be doing that if she wasn't looking. But now she's just putting you in the friendzone, it seems to me. At a bare minimum, you need to date other women and only see her once in awhile and tell her you're not "dating" her until she is single.
alphamale Posted October 26, 2018 Posted October 26, 2018 It's been a few weeks and she hasn't decided yet. I think you are better off moving on. People date for two months or maybe three (well, those that I personally know) before going into "relationship" status. I've had a few women thought they were in "relationship status" when I picked them up for the first date
Author bc72fgbjbc Posted October 26, 2018 Author Posted October 26, 2018 She has a boyfriend, so I don't know what she's up to, but if she was really into you, she'd do what so many do and monkey branch right over to you. I mean, I can't buy her late-blooming conscience. I mean, she did go on a date with another man while she has this bf, so she wouldn't be doing that if she wasn't looking. But now she's just putting you in the friendzone, it seems to me. At a bare minimum, you need to date other women and only see her once in awhile and tell her you're not "dating" her until she is single. She doesn't have a boyfriend. But yeah I get your point anyway. I also think she is slowly putting me towards the friendzone, it certainly feels like it. 1
Author bc72fgbjbc Posted October 27, 2018 Author Posted October 27, 2018 Move on, she is really not into you. I guess that's what I'll have to do right now. But man, I hate this type of girls who act so interested for one or two weeks and basically disappear afterwards.
Lotsgoingon Posted October 27, 2018 Posted October 27, 2018 Dude, you can get used to the two week and flake move ... because you will have the right to be the same way. Much better for people to flake and disappoint us at one week or two weeks ... than to flake on us at one or two months ... or one or two years ... or one or two decades!!!!! 1
ExpatInItaly Posted October 27, 2018 Posted October 27, 2018 So do you think it's worth it to give it more time? No, I don't.
snowcones Posted October 27, 2018 Posted October 27, 2018 I think she 's more into the other guy, but he's not acting right or something, so she's waiting for him to get his act together (which will most likely never happen) while she keeps you as the backup. It's up to you whether or not you want to wait. At the very least you can be her orbiter and see other women. 1
Author bc72fgbjbc Posted October 27, 2018 Author Posted October 27, 2018 I think she 's more into the other guy, but he's not acting right or something, so she's waiting for him to get his act together (which will most likely never happen) while she keeps you as the backup. It's up to you whether or not you want to wait. At the very least you can be her orbiter and see other women. Yeah good idea, I will leave the door open if she wants to see me once in a while, but I will stop giving her all my attention and texting her everyday. I will start evaluating my other options.
snowcones Posted October 27, 2018 Posted October 27, 2018 Yeah good idea, I will leave the door open if she wants to see me once in a while, but I will stop giving her all my attention and texting her everyday. I will start evaluating my other options. Boom! Perfect.
preraph Posted October 27, 2018 Posted October 27, 2018 I hope this for you and for everyone: that one day you can experience what it's like when someone is really into you like you are to them. It doesn't happen for everyone, or sometimes it just doesn't last, but once you experience it, there's less guesswork because you know you'll be able to tell when someone is really interested. Because you know, the simple truth is, most people are not that coy. If they like you, you will get a lot of attention from them. 1
snowcones Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 I hope this for you and for everyone: that one day you can experience what it's like when someone is really into you like you are to them. It doesn't happen for everyone, or sometimes it just doesn't last, but once you experience it, there's less guesswork because you know you'll be able to tell when someone is really interested. Because you know, the simple truth is, most people are not that coy. If they like you, you will get a lot of attention from them. So true, so true. 1
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