snowcones Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 Today she gave me a lot of crap. Sometimes I wonder if I could make it work if I did things differently. But I reckon it would probably not matter. People just do what they do. I remember a story from my childhood. There was a scorpion that wanted to swim accross the river. The scorpion asked a frog to carry him accross. The frog gets scared and says "I am not sure I would be doing this. What if you bite me?" The scorpion says: "It is impossible. Why would I bite you? If I do that, both of us will drown". The frog says: "Oh ok, makes sense". The frog carries the scorpion about half way accross and the scorpion bites the frog. The frog asks in despair: "Why the hell did you do that? Both of us will die now". The scorpion answers: "I know. I am sorry. It is my nature".. I felt a very strong urge to tell her to f... off this evening. But I did not. Not because I want to stick around. I have already decided to let her go. But I have decided to play it on my own terms. I am almost certain I will catch her cheating and I have a plan. I want to embarass her and call her with the right name and only after that tell her good bye. I don’t know if you’re obsessed with coming out of this looking squeaky clean, or if you think she’ll try to get you back (and you’re weak) but none of it will work if you’re dealing with a professional manipulator (her). She will defy whatever logic you have in your head. I’d just tell her it’s not working out for you anymore and block her. That’ll actually hurt her more than throwing cheating in her face. You do realize that addicts and cheaters rarely feel remorse?
snowcones Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 The below story was in the movie “ The crying game”. It’s fiction, will never actually happen, and not a reality, kind of like your relationship with this woman. I thought the scorpion story sounded a little too “victim-ish”. Like poor me I’m such a victim.
Author Maximiliano Posted October 29, 2018 Author Posted October 29, 2018 I donÂ’t know if youÂ’re obsessed with coming out of this looking squeaky clean, or if you think sheÂ’ll try to get you back (and youÂ’re weak) but none of it will work if youÂ’re dealing with a professional manipulator (her). She will defy whatever logic you have in your head. IÂ’d just tell her itÂ’s not working out for you anymore and block her. ThatÂ’ll actually hurt her more than throwing cheating in her face. You do realize that addicts and cheaters rarely feel remorse? It is not weakness. It is more of a curiousity thing. I am curious. She told me she lied because she was afraid to look bad in my eyes. She says she is clean now and all that bull****. Any time we have a confrontation, she acts like a smart ass and says "it is not you, I'm just used to being free and I am not sure if I can take it. And all that crap. "Manipulator" actually fits her description very well. She acts very much like a prostitute around other guys. So, all this wants me to want to remind her one more time that she is a prostitute. It is not the desire to come out of this clean. Also I don't think she will try to get me back. I would be very surprised if she did, knowing her personality. It is my anger and desire to prove a point. I know some of her best friends. I will make it hurt. I know it sounds mean. But I don't consider myself a bad person. I just like justice. There is no point jumping into a relationship if you are not ready for one and then blaming it on someone else. Oh my god. Some of the stories she told me, one could call thrillers. Her favorite subject seems to be her "ex"-es and may be she didn't even realize it herself. But if you add all the pieces together, she told me she effectively cheated on almost all of them, including the father of the children. Honest. No exageration. I am totally amazed at how bad women can get. I know it may sound immature to some of you but I really had to share this. She is completely nuts. The more time I spend with her, the more I realize it. We almost have no alone time. She prefers to sleep with her kid. She "medidates" a lot. She wants to become "enlightened" (in her own words). Not sure what that means. And a lot of similar crap. Anytime we have an argument, she says "it is OK, I love you, but I can set you free. Because I have a different way of loving." And it completely pisses me off. Because I don't believe any of this crap. She actually managed to call me an emotional abuser some 5 days ago. Honest. So, I want to show her that she is a b**ch and she only loves herself. And I will make it hurt.
snowcones Posted October 29, 2018 Posted October 29, 2018 It is not weakness. It is more of a curiousity thing. I am curious. She told me she lied because she was afraid to look bad in my eyes. She says she is clean now and all that bull****. Any time we have a confrontation, she acts like a smart ass and says "it is not you, I'm just used to being free and I am not sure if I can take it. And all that crap. "Manipulator" actually fits her description very well. She acts very much like a prostitute around other guys. So, all this wants me to want to remind her one more time that she is a prostitute. It is not the desire to come out of this clean. Also I don't think she will try to get me back. I would be very surprised if she did, knowing her personality. It is my anger and desire to prove a point. I know some of her best friends. I will make it hurt. I know it sounds mean. But I don't consider myself a bad person. I just like justice. There is no point jumping into a relationship if you are not ready for one and then blaming it on someone else. Oh my god. Some of the stories she told me, one could call thrillers. Her favorite subject seems to be her "ex"-es and may be she didn't even realize it herself. But if you add all the pieces together, she told me she effectively cheated on almost all of them, including the father of the children. Honest. No exageration. I am totally amazed at how bad women can get. I know it may sound immature to some of you but I really had to share this. She is completely nuts. The more time I spend with her, the more I realize it. We almost have no alone time. She prefers to sleep with her kid. She "medidates" a lot. She wants to become "enlightened" (in her own words). Not sure what that means. And a lot of similar crap. Anytime we have an argument, she says "it is OK, I love you, but I can set you free. Because I have a different way of loving." And it completely pisses me off. Because I don't believe any of this crap. She actually managed to call me an emotional abuser some 5 days ago. Honest. So, I want to show her that she is a b**ch and she only loves herself. And I will make it hurt. Okay you're going a little off the rails here. You picked a bad apple and that's it. It happens to the best of us. Don't start going crazy too. If you really want to "win" your best chance at doing that is just to disappear without the rest of what you're trying to do.
Author Maximiliano Posted October 29, 2018 Author Posted October 29, 2018 (edited) OP, how old is this woman? She is 34 too. OK this is getting a bit interesting now. You won't believe what I learned today. It turned out the father of the 2nd (youngest child) is another man. OK, at this point she is completely sure she has got me under control and she thinks I am a complete idiot. I probably am, since I chose to be with such a person. But for a few weeks, I will play idiot and then I will teach her a lesson she will never forget. She told me she did not love the father of the eldest son. But she was in love with the father of the youngest son. So much that she was cheating on the other man and she would prefer to be in his arms than go back to her kids. This is the person who doesn't even want to sleep with me. Lol.. And she would rather sleep with her kid. Anyway, some 2 weeks ago I had told her I want to bring her and the kids to my country permanently.. She is making plans now. At the moment I am in her country. This evening she told me she doesn't want to go to my country straight through the full year. And she wants me to buy her tickets every two months to visit her home country. I agreed and deliberately made myself look like a complete idiot, I will keep it that way until the time is right. Ofcourse I will not buy anything. Sometimes I feel sorry for her. But I realize it is not a good reason to be with her. It is clear that she has a prostitute mind set. She even unconsciously confessed it. About a month ago, she told me she chose me from among 3 people. She told me even the names. And later on, she explained how it is better to have one person taking care of you and not having to worry about sleeping with different people and catching STD. And since I was one of those people, she is treating me the same way, more or less. Lol... When this whole thing is over, I may even post pictures. Edited October 29, 2018 by Maximiliano
Author Maximiliano Posted October 29, 2018 Author Posted October 29, 2018 In addition to all of the above, I started noticing that in evenings she regularly becomes easily irritable and acts what someone could call psychotic. Even simple questions like "how is the cake coming along" will piss her off and she blames me for challenging her cooking skills. By that I really mean it. No exagerration. Is there any signs to look for to avoid people like this in the future? One thing is that some people will hide their **** very well. And they tend to open up only after they let their guard down. One way of doing that is probably not getting into a relationship too quickly. Because I suppose going fast is not good. Adequate people take longer to commit to a relationship I suppose. I will try not to make that mistake again.
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