Occitanie Posted October 25, 2018 Posted October 25, 2018 My girlfriend told her friend that she’s planning on coming to my town because she hasn’t seen me in a while... Why tell her friend and not me?
ExpatInItaly Posted October 25, 2018 Posted October 25, 2018 Maybe she was planning on surprising you?
Author Occitanie Posted October 25, 2018 Author Posted October 25, 2018 Maybe she was planning on surprising you? Maybe... it would be really nice if that’s the case. I just hope she doesn’t show up Tuesday (I have to pick my dad up from the airport) or Wednesday (I’m going to watch a football match with a friend).
ExpatInItaly Posted October 25, 2018 Posted October 25, 2018 Maybe... it would be really nice if that’s the case. I just hope she doesn’t show up Tuesday (I have to pick my dad up from the airport) or Wednesday (I’m going to watch a football match with a friend). Why don't you just talk to her and drop the hint that Tuesday and Wednesday are going to be busy days for you? That way, you won't spoil the surprise (if that's what she is planning) but you also don't come across as imposing, in case she's already had a change of plans and isn't coming after all.
Author Occitanie Posted October 25, 2018 Author Posted October 25, 2018 Why don't you just talk to her and drop the hint that Tuesday and Wednesday are going to be busy days for you? That way, you won't spoil the surprise (if that's what she is planning) but you also don't come across as imposing, in case she's already had a change of plans and isn't coming after all. Best case scenario is that she surprises me tomorrow or this weekend, because I’m here all day - I do have to serve clients till 9:30pm, but at least she can see me.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 25, 2018 Posted October 25, 2018 Best case scenario is that she surprises me tomorrow or this weekend, because I’m here all day - I do have to serve clients till 9:30pm, but at least she can see me. Again I ask, why don't you talk to her?
d0nnivain Posted October 25, 2018 Posted October 25, 2018 If she told her friend, not you, how did you find out? Is there any chance she was just telling her friend that she was coming to see you to cover for something she wanted to get out of doing with the friend, (did she lie)? I do think you should at least generally discuss your availability 1
Author Occitanie Posted October 25, 2018 Author Posted October 25, 2018 If she told her friend, not you, how did you find out? Is there any chance she was just telling her friend that she was coming to see you to cover for something she wanted to get out of doing with the friend, (did she lie)? I do think you should at least generally discuss your availability - The (mutual) frend told me. Shes my best friend’s sister, so she told me when i went to see him. - I don’t think so. They both happebed to play rugby in the same place on the weekend. My GF told her then.
Author Occitanie Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 Again I ask, why don't you talk to her? So I sent her a text this afternoon: Me “Hey! Have you got any free time, I would love to see you?” Her “I couldn’t come this weekend because I have exams on Monday, I can’t come next week either because I have a rugby tournament” Me “Right I see, well let me know when you do find the time and we can make plans then” Her “That works for me...” If she had left it at that, it would have been the end, but she then texts: “How have you been?”
ExpatInItaly Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 When was the last time you two spent time together, OP? Can you visit her?
Author Occitanie Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 When was the last time you two spent time together, OP? Can you visit her? 3 weeks ago. I just asked her if she was free because I’d like to see her. She said she’s busy, so I don’t think I can visit her.
preraph Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 I see no reason why you can't just text and ask her, "Jane said you were coming to see me. Is that true?"
ExpatInItaly Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 3 weeks ago. I just asked her if she was free because I’d like to see her. She said she’s busy, so I don’t think I can visit her. And how frequently do you talk to each other? The way you describe this situation sounds like you're only casually dating her.
Simple Logic Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 - The (mutual) frend told me. Shes my best friend’s sister, so she told me when i went to see him. - I don’t think so. They both happebed to play rugby in the same place on the weekend. My GF told her then. Ever heard of facts getting twisted. She may have said she wanted to come see you and it was reported to you she was.
Author Occitanie Posted October 28, 2018 Author Posted October 28, 2018 Ever heard of facts getting twisted. She may have said she wanted to come see you and it was reported to you she was. I think you’re right.
sabaton Posted October 28, 2018 Posted October 28, 2018 My girlfriend told her friend that she’s planning on coming to my town because she hasn’t seen me in a while... Why tell her friend and not me? Because she was planning to surprise you
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