dancingintherain12 Posted October 24, 2018 Posted October 24, 2018 Asking for a friend. She is dating a guy and she feels like it’s kind of whoreish to dirty talk a guy via text. I’m not talking about full blown sexting. But I’m also not talking about flirting lightly. Is that something you only do with a bf? Or do guys like the teasing? Does that not make a woman “gf” material if she does dirty talk you a little?
carhill Posted October 24, 2018 Posted October 24, 2018 Different strokes. Never went in much for that stuff. Aural sex, perhaps. Still preferred, and prefer, the in-person version most. I'd characterize my preference as PG-rated dirty talk, at best, via electronics. Keeps the married ladies out of trouble 1
ExpatInItaly Posted October 24, 2018 Posted October 24, 2018 This totally depends on the guy in question. 1
d0nnivain Posted October 24, 2018 Posted October 24, 2018 It's a personal preference. Some guys will like it. Others won't. Regardless your friend has to be happy with her own choices & feel comfortable. If she thinks it's whorish, then she should not do it if it makes her uncomfortable.
Happy Lemming Posted October 24, 2018 Posted October 24, 2018 Never went in much for that stuff. Same here... I'd rather be invited over for the actual thing, then text or talk about it.
Art_Critic Posted October 24, 2018 Posted October 24, 2018 I have always done it... it's a great way to warm up for the nights events... My wife however has a different take, she ignores each and every one of the sexts I send to her.. every one... But when I was dating her we sent hundreds ...and emails too...still have everyone we sent to one another 11 years later.. 1
carhill Posted October 24, 2018 Posted October 24, 2018 Same here... I'd rather be invited over for the actual thing, then text or talk about it. It occurred to me that some of it is generational too, since 'dirty talk' for my generation was, for decades, actually talk, mostly in person but sometimes over the phone. 'Texting' would have been love letters or similar, mailed or handed over. Somehow, dirty talk via text seems disconnected and fake to me. However, had I grown up with and been socialized via that communication, it might appear differently. IDK. There's a lot about the internet that strikes me as odd, particularly in the realm of human behavior. Shocking sometimes. No worries though I and my generation will be off the planet soon enough and the young and enlightened will inherit the earth. 1
smackie9 Posted October 24, 2018 Posted October 24, 2018 It means your friend isn't comfortable enough with this guy or at that level of intimacy/passion.....or just not THAT into him. I agree it's part of building sexual tension. If your friend is going ick, she's not totally hot for this dude and he's probably sex bombing her to get things moving. I think she sees red flags.
PRW Posted October 24, 2018 Posted October 24, 2018 Asking for a friend. She is dating a guy and she feels like it’s kind of whoreish to dirty talk a guy via text. I’m not talking about full blown sexting. But I’m also not talking about flirting lightly. Is that something you only do with a bf? Or do guys like the teasing? Does that not make a woman “gf” material if she does dirty talk you a little? No I don't. When we are together in private, face to face,...different story, as long as it still has a little tastefulness to it and not just "gross".
TunaCat Posted October 24, 2018 Posted October 24, 2018 It really depends on the guy. A guy I saw off and on for a VERY long time wasn't into the dirty talk at all. Even if I attempted it, he'd just ignore it. Now the guy I am casually seeing loves it. We do a lot of dirty talking.
pandagirl2018 Posted October 24, 2018 Posted October 24, 2018 Asking for a friend. She is dating a guy and she feels like it’s kind of whoreish to dirty talk a guy via text. I’m not talking about full blown sexting. But I’m also not talking about flirting lightly. Is that something you only do with a bf? Or do guys like the teasing? Does that not make a woman “gf” material if she does dirty talk you a little? The only thing that makes a woman "girlfriend material" is meeting the right guy! And the right guy would never judge the woman he likes based on her doing something she enjoys. If you friend likes it, just do it and f*** what he thinks! Instead of being concerned what the guy will think of her, she should be concerned on getting to know him and doing what she enjoys.
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